Linda - posted on 06/25/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )
I have a Special Needs Challenging son. Yes, sigh, he is again in therapy, has meds to help him sleep, calm him down, etc. etc. .
He has gotten more testing that anyone I know, and takes meds to help him sleep (and calm down). He takes a variety of medical grade physician monitored vitamins and melatonin..
Does all of this help? After 5 years (he was adopted at age 4) like usual, In his outside he is "just fine" - and you mom (me), "Must be over reacting." (OK; Come and live at my house.)
He swears at me, scratches me, hits me, throws things at me, has no brakes in his emotions (and anger) and recently started spitting at me and also in my tea..Why? If he doesn't get what he wants when he want it, it is Armageddon. (add to that Asberger thinking and boy what a joy).
He won't sleep except on the floor by my side, (always been that way, therapy not withstanding) and it is next to impossible for me to work as the writer I am (was).
Why am I telling you this? Because I not not the only mom who has a similar situation - So, my Question is: How do you stay sane in all of this? Where is mom's help for respite? If I hear one more person say we moms needs to, "take time for ourselves" I think I will scream. Hot tip.
Please tell me, all of you who say we moms, "Need to take care of ourselves first" - what specific suggestions do you have? Especially when it comes to needing either a baby sitter, friend or
family member to jump in. In my experience, they became overwhelmed, and are long gone; except for the - "Gosh, I don't know how you do it!"
Truthfully, neither do I.
Thanks for listening. Linn