So i think i might be pregnant, im a senior in highschool and 17 years old. Im not sure what to do.

Lc - posted on 03/16/2015 ( 12 moms have responded )

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I prefer not to sugar coat anything, i need to hear the truth. Yes i know im young, but my boyfriend and i are completelyin love. Its been 2 years with him, this wasn exactly planne but i am not bothered by it. Im very mature for my age, i dont drink, i dont smoke, i just go to school, eat and sleep and i have a part time job. My boyfriend is in college and he comes back in a month for good. Im just curious as to how i approach my mom with this. She's an alcholic, but we still maintain a relationship. So im scared of how she'll judge me.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/19/2015

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Life at that age IS easier without kids. Period. If you are not pregnant, please finish high school and start college. Stop having unprotected sex. Get on the pill. If you are going to have sex, be responsible. It is an adult action, with adult consequences, so if you are going to act like an adult, then protect yourself like an adult should. Just talking to you like if you were my daughter and she was having sex.

Sarah - posted on 03/18/2015

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You need to test. You would not be having a gut yet. You could possibly be pregnant from another time and be further along. Pulling out is just like having sex and not pulling out. There is pre cum that comes before a guy comes so pulling out means nothing.

Lc - posted on 03/18/2015

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Thank you for the support it means alot! I havent taken a test yet, but two weeks ago my boyfriend & i had unprotected sex and for the first time he didn't pull out, and ever since then I've been feeling exhausted 24/7, im feeling nauseous all the time and i feel myself gaining weight already! Now im not sure if its just me but i think ive gained a few pounds in the past couple of weeks, i even have a bigger gut now than before

K4krystalking - posted on 03/18/2015

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You'll be just fine I kind of feel like people make it seem harder than what it is, It an amazing experience it will become clock work but after all I was done with school when I had my baby! I think you should just approach her normally like you guys are talking about a simple matter and don't worry about her judging you.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/18/2015

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I think it is fantastic that you are still planning to go to college. Honestly, in the long run regardless of what happens with your friends, boyfriend, or mother.....this is the best thing you can possibly do for you and your child.

Have you found out if you are definitely pregnant yet? If not, what makes you think you are?

Jessi - posted on 03/17/2015

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It's your choice
If you think it'll be ok then why not
Some people will judge u but others won't
Your boufriend is in uni he's not some low life
I remember I'm 21 so not long ago when I was in high school a girl was pregnant and the guy told her off and said it wasn't his and that she was a slut, she ended up committing suicide
So be strong and be happy your boyfriend supports you:)

Ev - posted on 03/16/2015

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Sounds good to me that you have that kind of philosophy on things as they stand. I know a young lady who is 21 right now and she was not raised to do what she is now: living with BF off of his family with a one year old child. She expects everyone to do for her as she is in the mind set of a girl in high school that is a social butterfly. She was all talk through school about how she was going to college, going to do certain things, and what not. She got in a program to help her get ready to go to college, help her find financial aid for it, apply to various schools, and so on. She never kept up her grades at school, she socialized there and ended up getting kicked out because she did not complete the program's directives for students involved in it. So now she is sitting at home with her baby, not doing a thing to help herself, and waiting for someone else to foot the bill for it or to do it for her.

Lc - posted on 03/16/2015

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Of course, literally anything could happen. But im putting my faith in gods hands, whatever happens happens for a reason you know? Yes he has a job, he went away for a year for college and he's coming home and attending a university closer to home, (penn state) not that it matters but that is where i will also attend. I am a person who has a good amount of motivation, i refuse to be one of the teen moms who drop out of school and think a part time job will be enough for a living, yes understand how hard it must be to have a child of your own, but i will stop at nothing to give my future child a beautiful loving life, yes i believe in struggle but who doesnt struggle in life? We must fail to succeed... And i believe im ready

Ev - posted on 03/16/2015

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But just know anything can happen and you might not be financially stable anymore or there is an issue with room mates. Is your BF working? Is he done with college yet? If not is he going to finish? Because while your plans all look good on paper or in your mind's eye, there are some details that you might be overlooking too. We all do that, even parents who have planned their families out.

Lc - posted on 03/16/2015

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First of all, thank you for your honesty i really appreciate it. Right now i feel financially stable, i will be getting an apartment with a couple friends & my boyfriend soon (as crazy as that sounds) it was the cheapest way i could live away from my mother.

Ev - posted on 03/16/2015

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Once you are sure you are pregnant with this child, as Little Miss has said, there are a lot of things you need to be considering. As for mom, when you are sure, tell her plainly. Do not sugar coat it. Even if she judges you, if you have other friends or family that can support you go to them.

As for what you are in for:

1) You and your boyfriend may be completely in love now. But over time that can change as the both of you will change during your twenties. Not in bad ways just in how you think, your values, your ideals, what your thoughts on issues are...those kinds of things and that might mean your relationship might not be so much meshed anymore.

2) Having a child is not easy. You have to be able to provide financially for the child so they have their needs met, doctors visits, all night ers because baby is up sick, teaching the child what you want them to know, discipline and all that goes with it. Even having been married with kids its not all easy and no child comes with a how to do it book.

3) What plans have you for your continued education? You need to think of that as well because going to school and having a baby can be conflicting especially if you have to deal with child care or a babysitter and timing for that and classes do not work out.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/16/2015

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Well, be prepared for a rough road. Pregnancy and babies are not easy even for the most prepared and married couples. Before jumping to any conclusions, are you late for your period? Have you taken a test yet? Have you talked with your boyfriend about this?

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