so i tried to stop giving my son night time feedings, but he cries for over an hour until i feed him

Michelle - posted on 02/10/2010 ( 35 moms have responded )

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i just don't know what to do. my son sleeps from about 10pm to 3am and wakes up hungry. i'm just not sure what to do about it. i've tried not feeding him a night time feeding, and he cries for over an hour until i give him a bottle. then he goes right back to sleep. i've tried just giving him water to see if that would deter him from wanting to wake up for a night time feeding, but that didn't work either. i don't know if he's not getting enough during the day or what...HELP!!! he is 25 weeks old!

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Melissa - posted on 02/14/2010

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Why would you ignore that?? Or give him water?? Some children need night feedings until 18-24 months...depending on their metabolism. My daughter's 10 months old and still wakes up for a night feeding...it's completly normal.

Kyla - posted on 02/13/2010

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This is just my opinion, but i think it's sad that you are trying to force your baby to sleep through the night, so you can! Your son is 6 mths old for goodness sake! It's normal for him to still be waking up in the middle of the night to eat, because he's hungry; and as you've seen for yourself, after feeding him , he goes back to sleep anyway. I'm sure as a loving mother, you have 15-20 mins of sleep to give up so that your son is fed & happy. You have to be patient, sleep will come eventually, but his needs must come first; and anyone else that suggested any other method to try to force this poor little one to sleep before it's age appropriate, is just plain wrong!!

Barbara - posted on 02/12/2010

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I do not recommend letting him cry it out, as some have suggested.
Two of my friends did this in order to encourage their babies to start
sleeping through the night (and not rule the roost, so to speak) and
the ongoing crying induced a seizure. This is very rare to happen, but
if a child is predisposed to possibly having seizures (has the DNA for
it, and this something one doesn't know until it happens) incessant
crying can help trigger it. This doesn't mean that not
letting them cry at times is wrong. We parents just don't want to have them
crying (hard crying) for 30 minutes or longer. A night feeding is very common
until about a year old. At that point, if the child is eating well in the daytime,
is healthy, at an appropriate weight, and wakes up in the night, try to pacify
him with water, rubbing the back, and calm words. Him knowing that you
haven't abandoned him in the night will help with him being able to console
himself in the future. I have also found that some times the baby will wake up
from a bad dream, that can occur because of something they have seen/heard/
felt through that week. Even watching a movie with the baby that you know
you wouldn't show your 4 year old, can affect them all day and night too.
Hope this helps.
Enjoy your son! You are blessed. =)

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Ilham - posted on 08/25/2012

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don`t worry about your baby ,he still a little.me too, I have same your problem with my daughter ,she is 11 months and she still wakes up 3 to 4 times to get her bottle and she goes back to sleep again. I tried to do same what you said but does not work at all .my husband told me just feed her at night until she will stop feeding by herself during the night .also you will get a nice night and your baby too if you feed him .

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Feed him. If he will only be calmed by a bottle then he's hungry. The only way you *may* be able to change it is to get him more calories during the day...But for some babies that just doesn't work. But, I mean...If it were you, and you woke up hungry, would you want someone to make you cry for an hour when you and they both knew that if you just had food you would go right back to sleep? Feeding him will help both fo you get back to sleep sooner and will give him calories that he apparnetly needs.

Susan - posted on 02/15/2010

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He's pretty young I'd feed him. You might try giving him a little baby cereal before bed to hold him over longer. This worked with my children. (I have 6 the youngest is 9yrs. old now) You should be concerned about making this a life long habit..but he's still young to worry too much. :)

Victoria - posted on 02/15/2010

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Feed him, he's obviously hungry, so just go with it, my daughter was just the same - it was exhausting, I was breastfeeding and bottlefeeding to keep up with her demands. All babies are different and they all have growth spurts at different times too. If you really can't cope then try switching to a different milk, maybe ask your health visitor which formula is more suitable for hungrier babies.

Viki - posted on 02/14/2010

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feed him every kid is def.i have 4 all of them had different schedules.So if he wakes up hungry just feed him and get some much needed sleep.

Pauline - posted on 02/14/2010

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yes i agree with the ladies...25 weeks is too early, i know the books say from 6 mths he should be sleeping right though but it never happened for me, around 11-12 months it did but not 25 weeks,maybe try another brand of milk, also you may miss you sleep,(i did) but knowing you are your sons best friend should comfort you when you are going though this labour of love, it doesn't last forever so chin up and keep up the good job mom!!!

Amy - posted on 02/14/2010

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my twins didn't sleep through until 4 or 5 months, i ended up trying to cluster feed and worked wonders. give him a few ounces in a bottle about 2 hours before his last bottle or half way in between his last two bottles. I read this in one of those huggies newsletters, tried it and it worked. My boys at every 4 hours and then when i cluster fed, lasted 8 hours.

Nicole - posted on 02/14/2010

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go to him when he cries but only offer him cooled, boiled water, he will realise there is nothing to gain by waking other than a short cuddle and he will soon get over waking in the night

Rebecca - posted on 02/14/2010

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Some babies continue to need a night feed until 12 months of age. Just feed him. You can try making sure he has an extra feed during the day, but if he isn't interested you can't push it. He is still little - just feed him and make night time simpler for everyone!

Kay - posted on 02/14/2010

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i know it's a nightmare but, you will have to just put up with him crying until he realises that you are not going to give in. We had the same problem with my daughter and it took about a week of sleepless or broken sleep nights but, eventually she got the idea ! He just wants to see how far he can control you and get you to do what he wants. As long as he is fed and changed before he goes to bed he should be able to sleep for 7 to 8 hours with out waking at this age. Good luck!

Brieanne - posted on 02/13/2010

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I've had the same problem w/ my 8mo old son - and I tried EVERYTHING - feeding him fruit and cereal right before his bed time bottle, cereal in the bottle, the Enfamil night time formula (which constipated him and gave him a belly ache), etc - it's a soothing thing. A lot of babies are soothed by a bottle. I also tried water too - it's gotta be formula. So, I've just learned to deal w/ this phase - we all get back to sleep a lot quicker if I just feed him.

Kim - posted on 02/13/2010

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i think your son is hungry and you should feed him a bottle whenever he wants it, regardless of the time - night or day. he's still so young. you'll have a much happier baby and you will both have better quality sleeps, even though they may be shorter.

DeeAnna - posted on 02/13/2010

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Do you mix baby cereal with his last bottle of the night? If not, that is the way to go, he will be fuller longer.

Renae - posted on 02/12/2010

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So he is around 6 months then? 50% of babies need one night feed until 12 months old. I recommend you do nothing but let him grow out of it. He is still very young.

Katie - posted on 02/12/2010

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Try Enfamil's night time formula. I can't recall the name, but know that it's made specifically for bedtimes and is supposed to last longer in their tummies. Enfamil Restfull. You should be able to find it at any major grocery store or Target/Walmart. I think kids are able to sleep through the night at 6 months old and it would appear that your son is juuuuuust about there. So don't fret too much over it. Try the nighttime formula and see if that helps. Otherwise, feed him and eventually he'll give that feeding up when he's ready.

Tammy - posted on 02/10/2010

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Feed him. My son is 7mo and still wakes a least once a night to nurse. He will sleep through the night when he is ready.

Amanda - posted on 02/10/2010

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I would say if the water didnt work then he is still hungry. Just feed him. One day you will wake up at 8am in a panic and find that he suddenly doesnt need that night bottle anymore!

Amber - posted on 02/10/2010

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Why on earth are you trying to take out the night time feeding? Feed the poor kid! He's still young!

LaTeasa - posted on 02/10/2010

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Try a little cereal before bed that might help. If that doesn't help try just to let him cry as long as you know that he is not hurt or needs a diaper change. I know it can be really hard but trust me it works, however you have to stick with it if you decide to try this method. Even if he cries for over an hour if you give in he knows that all he has to do is cry for that long and then you will come in with a bottle. We did this with our daughter when she was about 8 mo and it worked! Like I said it will be very hard so you have to fully commit to it. This will not affect his development in anyway, this is advice that our pediatrician gave us but trust me it will be harder on you then your child!

Rachel - posted on 02/10/2010

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Your baby is still young. Night time (aka, bed time) feedings are usually one of the last to go. There is no need to worry about this or try to cut this one out right now.

Robyn - posted on 02/10/2010

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What happens if you give him a bit more solids at dinner? Maybe a fruit (jar if still using it) before bed might ease those small "hunger pains"
You can never go wrong with fruits and veggies for a filler at supper. You could also try a tablespoon...or two....of cereal. (Rice or something like that) That tends to be a filler.
Hope that helps!

Elizabeth - posted on 02/10/2010

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aww feed the little gaffer... night time feedings are completely normal. There is no point in depriving your babe of milk just cause in my opinion, you wanna sleep. He will eventually sleep through the night, just be patient. My little guy wakes up at 3 am everyday for a bottle- he's only up for about 45 mins before he is sleeping peacefully again.

Claire - posted on 02/10/2010

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My 12mnth old still wakes during the night twice for nursing and is always hungry so I feed him,when the time is right I will stop but until then...and it has'nt anything to do with what they eat during the day,hope that helps :)

Eleodia - posted on 02/10/2010

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I found with my son he usually still needed a night feeding well past 25 weeks, I think the need is individual to the child and we were both miserable when I tried to deny him because he wasn't "supposed" to need it any more. If you're worried about sleep habits not just the feeding make sure he can fall asleep without a bottle. But is the water doesn't work he probably is really hungry!

Michelle - posted on 02/10/2010

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Feed the poor baby. Who on earth told you night time feedings are bad? My first son woke up every 2 to 3 hours to feed until he was 5 months then he started just waking up once until he was 11 months. Since then he sleeps all night. My second only wakes up once at 5 am to feed he's 4 months and he's been doing this since he was 1 month old. Every baby is different.

Christin - posted on 02/10/2010

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I wish I knew how old your son is, because that sort of changes the "big picture". It is important to respond to the feeding demands of very young babies. On the other hand if your child is an "older" baby (toddler) then perhaps you can press on with making a change. I think as a mom you will just know from your instincts when it is okay to let him cry instead of feeding him. My middle daughter kept us up for months needing to nurse in the middle of the night. Finally, when she was about 14 months old I just felt "ready" to let her cry it out. I went into her room and said "I love you, but you are disrupting the enitre household, now lay down and go back to sleep". I don't think she even cried much longer until she went to sleep and that was the end of it. But I just felt that she and I were both ready to take that next step. Follow your instincts and do what is best for your entire family. Don't try this with a newborn or any baby under 6-12 months they need the nutrition especially if they are only breastfeeding or bottle feeding. Good luck. :)

Amie - posted on 02/10/2010

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Emilie Benghalem
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How old is he? If he is over 6 months he might not need it, but is he is still a little baby then feed him.


This is a common misconception. There is no "magic age" where you stop feeding a baby at night. When he/she can be comforted by other things is when you stop feeding him/her.

Amie - posted on 02/10/2010

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If he needs the night time feed give it to him. My 10 month old still gets up at night for a bottle. It's just something she needs. It has nothing to do with what he eats during the day either. My little one eats 3 meals and 2 snacks, she still gets up at night for her bottle. It will pass, just be patient.

Emilie - posted on 02/10/2010

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How old is he? If he is over 6 months he might not need it, but is he is still a little baby then feed him.

Gwen - posted on 02/10/2010

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Feed him. I found with my daughter that night time went much more smoothly when I quit trying to "win" and just responded to her needs.

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