So indecisive. Help!!

Chelsea - posted on 05/23/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I'm 18 and just graduated high school. My boyfriend & I talk about having a baby all the time. Neither one of us want to wait but we do at the same time

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Firebird - posted on 05/23/2012

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Dude, just get a puppy or something. You don't even have your own place to live. Do you have a decent job, or do you expect your parents to pay for everything the baby needs?

Jodi - posted on 05/23/2012

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If you have a baby, how do you plan on finishing college? That is a serious question. I know you THINK you will be able to juggle it, but it isn't that simple. Why would you do that to yourself? You have YEARS ahead of you to start a family. Why not just focus on college now, and then, once you have graduated, think about it again then?



I know plenty of people who wish they had waited a little before they had kids. I don't know too many who regret waiting a bit longer.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/23/2012

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Well, my view would be that, yes, he SAYS he wants babies, and a relationship now, but what if he changes his mind, and you're 4.5 months pregnant? Then YOU have the responsibility of not only having the baby, but also raising it, and pursuing him for support.

Until you are certain that you can support a baby, and won't be relying on your parents for living arrangements, food, and other necessities, I wouldn't recommend it.

Yeah, I wanted a baby from the time I was 16. I tried valiantly for many, many years. 8 years later I was solidly married, in a good place financially, and we finally were able to conceive. I was upset for YEARS when I couldn't have kids, but I realized that ultimately, waiting until we were solid was much better.

September - posted on 05/23/2012

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Just wait. Why rush it when you're so young, plan to go to school in the fall and don't have your own place? It's a lot of reasonability. Enjoy your youth and have kids later.

Kristie - posted on 05/23/2012

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trust me ;iving with parents(yours or his) with a child/or pregnant not a good time. Even though you love his parents and yours it will be really stressful. I did it with my in laws we had our son and i was pregnant with second poop machine. I would still recommend finishing school then get own place to live and then if still want to have a baby. I was almost 21 when I had my first was in the U.S. Army as my husband. It's very hard, just do what you feel is best for you.

Chelsea - posted on 05/23/2012

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I am going to college in the fall & luckily I have enough pell grants to pay for my schooling. We are not living on our own yet but between his parents and mine we will have an awesome place to live

Kaitlin - posted on 05/23/2012

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are you living on your own? Would you be able to care and fund a child? Are you wanting to go to college (and who's paying for that?)?

Kristie - posted on 05/23/2012

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Do you plan on going to college? If so I would atleast wait closer to college graduation if not until you get established. You will need money(kids are not cheap), and you will want to live in a good area and all that. You could always go to college with a kid it will be hard. Think about all the things your child will need and then think about what you can realistically handle. Kids are great but I would wait a few more years.

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