So ive been finding items of my underwear in my sons room

Jj - posted on 10/12/2014 ( 6 moms have responded )

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bras, suspenders, the full works

what do you think is happening and how can i approach him about it????

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Sarah - posted on 10/13/2014

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At 13, he is going to be embarrassed and probably not forthcoming with any reasons for his behavior. Since you know why he did it, just prepare a short speech to deliver to him. Tell him you love him, you understand his feelings, that his feelings are normal, that isn't ok for him to invade your privacy nor take your things. Ask him if he has any questions and let him know that you will be there if he does have any questions in the future. If he isn't comfortable talking to mom, let him know that he can talk to...dad, older brother, older cousin, uncle etc..
Good luck.

Jj - posted on 10/13/2014

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thanks guys. ive noticed things going missing for a couple of months now, its more noticeable when you buy new things and they go instantly, shoved between his matress and bed.

im not looking forward to talking to him but sarah i think i will play it your way

its obviously sexual curiosity but thats also another thing im worried about :/

Sarah - posted on 10/12/2014

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There is a good chance this is plain old sexual curiosity. Definitely, he should not touch your private belongings. Talk to him calmly, tell him what you found and let him tell you why. If he dodges answering you, then tell him can talk it over with dad. He will probably be very embarrassed. At 13 he is a huge walking hormone.
Try to get him to talk about it. If you are calm and cool, the more likely he will tell you what's up and why he took them. Do you think it has been going on for a long time?

Michelle - posted on 10/12/2014

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You need to ask him why he's doing it. Tell him that it's not right to take things that belong to someone else.
Hopefully if he knows that you know he will stop.

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