Vita - posted on 09/07/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )
Since i met my husband he has been in and out of jobs. A few months before we met he lost the job of a lifetime that he loved. he claims for innocent reasons but i dont know anymore. Maybe he deserved it. Anyways. so since then he has juggled jobs and we even lived off of donating plasma. I worked fulltime when we met and got pregnant not too long after. When i was about 7 months i got hurt in an accident and had to take time off. he still couldnt "find" a job and we were living so terribly. I finally was able to get back to work but missed my baby soooo much. Eventually i decided with a friend that i wanted a career than a simple minimum wage retail job. Husband got a decent job making no more than i was and let me go to school. I went to school and eventually dropped out because he couldnt handle the work load. I found another job and worked some months there and came across a scholarship i got for a wonderful school that i could get a great job from, so i quit work and went to school full time. While hubby managed to keep small jobs. But, once again once school was out he stopped working and i got a job. Its almost like, he works just enough to get us by until i can. Well i dont plan on leaving this job ever, and he doesnt plan on working. i need him to work for my sanity. selfish? maybe. But im totally jealous. I bust my ass doing what i would consider a mans job. Yes i choose a very physical job, but its the career i want, and i want to be able to support my children. Since my husband wont. So it was half a choice and half based on the money. But now, i work anywhere from 50-60 hours a week laboring and hes staying home with the kido. When i get home hes video gaming, reading, or eating. Theres never anything to eat. nothing for my lunches. And the house is a disaster. i do it all. all of it! And if thats not worse, half of the trash i find in my house is all from his friends. he has them come over while im gone like a teenager and leave right before i get off work. he lives off of social enjoyment and im the opposite. And i cant get over that. i dont see why he needs people all the time. if he does soooo much why doesnt he get a job and meet people. or go out with friends like normal. why do they always have to come trash my house. they cant even have the respect to find the trash can! iv spoke to him numerously about my concerns (nicely of cource) and all i get in return is anger. i guess i make him feel imasculated. But i dont know what else to do. he chose to stay at home, but wont take on the job. i want to give up. sorry its so long thanks for reading, i also dont have any friends or social time to myself.