so my sisters 11 year old 12 in dec. has been aking for a cell phone for 5-6 months and shes wandering if she should get her one she says she is ready and exited about taking on a cell phone my sister doesn,t know thought but almost everyone in her classes has cell phones so now she says that she is ready. what should she do? im asking this for her becauuse she doesnt like outside help but she really does need help dec. so please help!?!?!?!
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Dolly - posted on 10/27/2011
My sister got her daughter a cell phone at age 13 so she could keep better tabs because she is divorced... Similar situation unlimited texting.. limited who she could call.. they thought that would be safe... Besides she is a good girl who is very responsible..... IT IS NOT! They text all hours of the day and night! It can become a real problem.. and it did.. She had a boyfriend.. and they then had unlimited text contact... one thing leads to another and her little boyfriend (same age) ended up Sending her picture messages that were as inappropriate as you can get!
If I were going to get my daughter a phone It would be only if I needed to reach her and her me. It would be a phone that would only call or Text numbers I chose! Really I think kids have phones way to early now a days... And then I would make sure she understood the rules.. When you get home.. i get your phone. What do they need it for if they are at home? So thats how I would handle it.. Even if they are responsible ... are the people they are texing/communicating with just as responsible? I bet not!
Sharlene - posted on 10/28/2011
Hi , Darls I was joking about Maury show LOL.But you's guys need to do something to me she sounds out of control now, keep getting other mums opinin ons here and hopefully someone will have a good answer for you's .cheers
Tinker1987 - posted on 10/28/2011
yeah no, it sounds like this kid has some serious behavioral issues and rewarding her with a phone is a mistake...if she acts behaved and earns the phone then maybe i would consider it but until then if that wre my kid he would have a very boring life in his room with nothing,if he even dared slap me.
Tinker1987 - posted on 10/28/2011
well if the problems are at night the phone should be taken away at night.there is no need for the Kid to have it in his or her room at 11 at night.if the phone is intended to be used when the kid is out with friends ect...
I wouldn't get my kid a cell phone just cuz the other kids have one. If that were the case... they would've had one a LONG time ago. ;)
My girls will be 10 in December and they will most likely be getting a phone this summer. For OUR personal circumstances I feel it is important. It has nothing to do w/ THEM wanting it (which they have for years now), but w/ ME wanting them to have it.
If I didn't want them to have it and saw no need.... they wouldn't be getting one til they are driving.
Sarah - posted on 10/28/2011
i actually called my sister about this dolly very helpful and she is not that kind of parent though she lets her daughter 11 to stay up until 11:30 on a school night and then after making her go to bed she says you can get up once i go to bed! its ridic. and she has an 8 year old with down syndrome he usaully doesn't go to bed until 10!! and the texting won't be a problem or the pic. messaging or the calling because she uses her phone all the time so she is ALWAYS asking for her phone and if she does get the phone then she said " she can use it whenever i don't care as long as i know that i am speed dialed in the phone you and mom i don't care" the reasons why she wants it is heres another slap she has a FB and she wants to uplaoad pics. and go on and txt and call! and her mom thinks thats alright but whatever but she is very responsible i still to this day wonder how that happened ! she takes care of her lil brother all day because her moms on the comp. or cleaning ! so she is very responsible !.....
Tinker1987 - posted on 10/27/2011
well i think its crazy for 11-12 year olds to have cellphones but in reality times have changed. were just a more technology advanced generation now,so it doesnt suprise me...i would probably cave and get a phone for my son when the times comes but it will have some firm rules and if those rules are broken the phone goes bye bye.
Jennifer - posted on 10/27/2011
I got my daughter on a family cell phone plan. We have unlimited texting but limited talking minutes. I told my daughter she is only allowed to CALL me! She can text her friends as much as she wants though.
Having a cell phone even at a young age is a good idea. If you let your child visit friends at their houses, you can make sure they are doing what they are suppose to by asking them to send a picture of themselves in a particular place. This is so you know they are not sneaking off someplace else. If you think she might get wise, have them pose in a particular position at the place they are suppose to be. Mix it up and they won't be able to anticipate enough to fake a photo.
The other nice benefit is if I want her to take out the dog or do a chore, there is no more yelling. I just send her a text. :) It's been a real energy saver for me.
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