so we cant get pregnant and ivf costs so much! any suggestions as to how to save the money or other

Sara - posted on 02/14/2010 ( 20 moms have responded )

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we cant get pregnant the all natural way and was wondering if anyone had advice on how to pay for it or oter options that might help us

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Mousumi - posted on 01/05/2015

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I am not getting pregnant for four years . don't have money to spend. Pls help.

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Oh, Honey! My heart is with you. I have no advice for you having never been through this. But, keep my good thoughts and wishes with you. I hope you are able to have this wish of your heart.

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Oh Honey. I do know how heart breaking it is. I was in your shoes. Everyone around me having babies at the drop of a hat and me SO desperately wanting one and not being able to do it. I even had one girlfriend after listening to me unload about how sad and frustrated I was about the failure of yet ANOTHER treatment, turn around and say "well I suppose I should tell you that I'm pregnant because you'll hear about it soon enough. And by the way I am not happy about being pregnant...I didn't want another child". I nearly slapped her.

And if I had a dollar for every person that told me "Just go on holiday and relax...Stop trying so hard...it will happen" or "If it's meant to be it will happen", I could've paid for a years worth of IVF without blinking.

We are all here for you Hun. Chin up.

My advice is still shop around. I'm sure you'll find a cheaper treatment option somewhere.

Sara - posted on 02/14/2010

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Thanks so much for all of the encouragement! No one here seems to understand how heartbreaking it can be. Our insurance companies here won't even consider helping out and there are no loan options for fertility treatments. We just keeps hoping and praying that god will bless us with a child. It is so difficult especially when everyone around you is having children. Most people think it so easy when in actuallity getting pregnant is an incredible miracle. I was 17 when I became pregnant and had my daughter and was too young to realize what a blessing she was. I do now though. I will definiatly ask our reproductive specialist if iui is a good option for us!

Adrienne - posted on 02/14/2010

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Bless you all and your families for the complications you've endured! My husband and I have often joked about me becoming a surrogate because Im incredibly fertile but to hear the sacrifices some families have made to have just one child makes me realize that Im really blessed that we havent had the same complications. I hope everything works out for everyone and always always always follow your intuition. You'll be the best judge of whats best for you and yours!

Andrea - posted on 02/14/2010

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I'm from Canada and spent thousands of dollars having my sons. We had to refinance our home. We also have medical finance companies with low interest rates that help here. Tell your financial analyst that until they've been in your shoes, shut the @%$& up! Paying out $10,000 in one shot for treatment is a lot different than paying that same amount for a baby over time. Adoption is very expensive as well and so many think it's so easy! IUI is cheaper than IVF, but you need to have a certain sperm count for that so ask your endochronologist about it. BTW, we had the same infertility diagnosis so if you have any questions let me know.

Sharon - posted on 02/14/2010

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It wasn't affording the car - it was coming up with the cash to pay for the sperm sorting. They were two much older cars and not worth much - so we tossed in refinancing the house.

Strangely - banks don't want to loan money so you can have a baby. We could afford a loan payment but who has 10's of thousands of dollars just laying about doing nothing?

At any rate - we decided that we really wanted a baby girl but we'd be happy with a baby boy too so let mother nature do her thing.

Adoption is difficult and fraught with many hurdles and disappointments.

We thought about it and thought about it and thought about it and well, because we had a child, I was ok with facing loss of a child that wasn't due to death, know what I mean? The child still got a loving home, just not with me. Sad and hurtful but not death? I can't really speak for the process because I didn't actually go through it, but that was my rationale at the time. My husband on the other hand gets VERY attached to children/babies and wasn't willing to face any sort of loss.

Wandered pretty far off topic. sorry.

Sara - posted on 02/14/2010

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yeah we considered selling one of the cars and such but all I ever hear from financial analyst is if we cant afford our car and a kid then we dont need one. I live in California and my husband and I are looking at moving out of state to arkansas to be near family and well things are alot cheaper there then here. We had not checked into how much medical intervention for our problem would cost there though. I am open to adoption eventaully but would still like to see if we could have one of our own as well. adoption is hard and expensive as well plus sometimes filled with just as much heartbreak if not more. You could become very attached to the child and the parents could change their mind. The sadness every month is a faceless sadness where as I know I would be devestated if I became attached and lost the child.

Sharon - posted on 02/14/2010

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I can't think of a thing that would be cheaper. Refinance your home? We thought about that when we trying to decide to go high tech for our last. We contemplated refinancing our home, selling two vehicles and managing with one truck.

Good luck!

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I agree with Marewa. If low sperm count is the problem then it really doesn't matter what you do to yourself. IUI (Inter Uterine Insemination) is the way to go.

We had the same issue and various tried various things for 2 1/2 years to have our first child until we had IUI. It worked first time for our first child and we have gone down that route again for our second. We have just had our 4th round and are hoping for a positive pregnancy test in about a week so it doesn't work automatically everytime but honestly with low sprem production it is the best option outside of actual full blown IVF.

May I ask where you are from because I am staggered that it costs that much? Can you shop around? It doesn't cost anywhere near that much where I am. I am in Australia (like Tash) and mine didn't even cost as much as hers did. Ours ends up costing us about $700 a round and we gat about 35% of that back.

Danielle - posted on 02/14/2010

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There is always adoption, a family friend has two children of her own and they adopted 3 children from China. There are also a lot of children in need of homes in Haiti and all over the world. Of course there are also many children in need of families here as well. Good luck with whatever you decide

Marewa - posted on 02/14/2010

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Yes it's expensive. Sometimes it's cheaper to cut to the most exact strategy rather than trying a step-wise approach which costs a bit here a bit there, but also you lose time. Fertility is not a permanent state and having been able to conceive previously does not guarantee future fertility. ISCI would be the most exact - intracytoplasmic sperm injection, requires IVF; but we only had to do it once. I regretted not going to it straight off the bat and instead spent $000s trying interim steps. For low sperm count - straight to ICSI that's the guts.

Adrienne - posted on 02/14/2010

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You should check with an herbalist...there are soo many homeopathic things that are often skipped straight over or overlooked. ant guarantee theres something to fit your needs but it certainly wouldnt hurt to research it and the costs would presumably be considerably less than a prescription that would/could take months to work if it worked at all. And, as mentioned in a previous reply, theres always adoption, tho I realize its not for everyone. Good Luck!

Tash - posted on 02/14/2010

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Have you both been checked out? I had endo and we ended up using IUI, its heaps cheaper than IVF and not as invasive. It cost $1500.00 {in Australia}, I was lucky & it worked the first time and I had twins. Talk to your doctor & google it, I would recommend it.

IUI can help with slow swimmers too, that wasn't a problem for us - the doctor & the info meantioned it.

Sara - posted on 02/14/2010

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we have both been tested and found that I am ok but my husband has a low count. Motility /mobility are ok though. we tried a medicine that is supposed to increase the number (clomide) but that didn't work. We tried tracking ovulation and all of that. we were told intraunterine insimination may work but meds to increase egg produciton cost around 4000 a month and the rest of the procedure around 2000.other than that one the only other offer we were told about was ivf. I have a child from a prior relationship (she is 10) and had no problems getting rpegnant then but I was alot younger lol. I just thought maybe someone might know of something else we could try! Thanks for all the comments!

Abbie - posted on 02/14/2010

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What all have you done to get pregnant? Have you seen a specialist? There are many things to try before IVF! We too are having a problem getting pregnant naturally, why we have no idea, as we have conceived one son on our own. Please post back what all has been checked and tested, i'll look to give more suggestions then.

Marewa - posted on 02/14/2010

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Depends why you can't. Presume you've had the tests? There's several steps before IVF you could try, e.g. medication to boost egg production; DIY insemination... but first, what's the problem?

Emilie - posted on 02/14/2010

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My cousin got IVF, and it took but she had a miscarrage, then she got it done again and had another miscarrage. Some companies will not make you pay until you are actually pregnant or until you take a baby home.

Also, if you know somebody that would be willing to be you serogate then you won't need to pay somebody to do it. Maybe you could check into addopting out of foster care.

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