Social problems and ADHD

Leanne - posted on 06/17/2015 ( 11 moms have responded )

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Can anyone advise on how to deal with this problem? My son has no friends and does not get invited to birthday parties at all. Concerta hasn't helped . I know he acts very immature and says odd things at times ( like repeating a joke they have laughed at once constantly even though they have heard it before)

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Jodi - posted on 06/18/2015

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Leanne, that's not how ADHD is treated in Australia. I'm also not sure where you get the idea that there is any more scepticism about it here than anywhere else in the world - there are sceptics everywhere.

I don't know where you live, but there are plenty of support groups and plenty of options available.

Have a look at the following sites which may help point you in the right direction:
http://www.everydaywithadhd.com.au/

The fact is, not every medication is right for every child. ADHD isn't as simple as giving a medication. It can sometimes take a few goes to get it right. Maybe a different type of medication is what is required. Maybe you also need to look at his diet. Maybe some behaviour therapy would also be helpful. One size does not fit all. I would suggest finding a pediatrician, not just a GP, who specialises in this area and will be able to provide you with options. But often you can't just give the medication and hope that it will make things right - your son also needs to develop appropriate strategies to help himself too.

Jodi - posted on 06/19/2015

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Leanne, if you have a mental health plan with your doctor, you can qualify for some mental health services under Medicare - this should be one you can qualify for to subsidise the psychologist fees. Contact Medicare to get more information, or your doctor should be able to help you with this. It does cover social problems.

And with regard to specialists for ADHD, no, there aren't necessarily ADHD psychologists or pediatricians, but most of them are more specialist in some areas than others, and therefore likely have more experience with it. I just found these ones online....
http://www.sydneydevelopmentalclinic.com...
http://www.adhd-clinic.com.au/

I'm surprised, if you have been working in mental health for so long, you didn't realise that there were some out there who specialised in these areas.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/18/2015

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Hmmm. One of my friends is a teacher in Australia, and she tells me differently regarding how ADHD is treated...perhaps its time to check into things further with your physician and a therapist.

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Duse1 - posted on 06/19/2015

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One of my son's has ADHD,, the other was misdiagnosed and after saying he had ADD with out the H for years, now they say he has Autism and OCD. He was diagnosed with Epilepsy (Seizure disorder) years ago..My point don't take the first diagnoses. keep seeking the right diagnoses for your son.. make sure. Cause one thing that helps ADHD won't help a person that has OCD or both...
My son is an adult now,, pretty much a Hermit, don't let that happen to yours.
keep him active in things.. Scouting, Sports, Music,, things that include other children
in these groups you might find children that look at life the same way your son does.
I know if I had it to do all over again, I would seek out Groups that talk about and help with my son's condition.. then some of those parents start Fun days and get together with their children. best to get him with children that understand him.
I put my son in all types of activities as a child, I wish I could of found a group back then to help.. Good luck.. and many thanks for this post,, I hope this helps and no other child suffers like my son did..

Leanne - posted on 06/18/2015

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Thanks Jodi.
That site is great and have linked up with one of the groups . That is still only two group for kids ADHD in the whole of Sydney though.
Yes he has been seen by a clinical psychologist and is going back to see her , but the cost is too much for us on a regular basis . Maybe an OT would be as good .I have not heard of ADHD specialist counsellors here.
As far as awareness and acceptance of ADHD in the adult population in Mental health in particular that is how it's treated widely I'm afraid . Fact . With 24 years experience as Clinical nurse specialist in Adult mental health you have to search far and wide for a psychiatrist that won't take the stimulants away first to replace them with mood stabilisers as they think it is bipolar disorder that was misdiagnosed . Slowly word is getting out there .

Leanne - posted on 06/18/2015

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Well maybe our teacher is just that way ,as she pays lip service when we explain about ADHD and give strategies that we have learnt about, but I find they are not followed through with . Past teachers have been pretty good so maybe the word is getting out there and there is better awareness . Sorry to offend anyone but that has been my experience and it's frustrating as hell . My little boy is under a fabulous developmental Paediatrician , but even he throws his hands up with regard to the Social issues and suggests an o/t or psychologist

To Nhu - posted on 06/18/2015

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There are counselors who are especially trained to work with children with ADHD and their families. My husband has a sister with ADHD kids (the sister is a nurse herself). She often speaks of her therapist and it seems that she relies on the therapist to guide her through how to handle the kids, addressing behavioral issues, medication side effects etc.

Leanne - posted on 06/17/2015

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I am guessing you are from the U.S as there is so much more support and research done on ADHD . I can't even find a support group here let alone an ADHDcoach 😜Here in Australia there is a lot of sceptism about ADHD , people still believe it is a made up diagnosis. I work in Mental Health and the first thing our Drs do when a patient is admitted is to generally take them off ADHD meds! My little guy is 9 and has been on Concerta / Methylphenidate for 3 years . Thank you for your kind replies everyone .

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/17/2015

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Well, actually, counselors and physicians are quite 'in the know' as it were.
If the Concerta isn't working, and he's been on it long enough for it to take effect (med changes, new meds, etc, can take up to 3 weeks to start being effective), then you need to have him re-evaluated with his physician, and let the school counselor know what's going on. They can help him with adjusting to social situations.

Leanne - posted on 06/17/2015

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No I haven't . Not sure what they can do to be honest . Most people are pretty clueless when it comes to ADHD social issues .

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