Some days are harder than others.

Robin - posted on 05/18/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




I am a newly single mom of an amazing 5 year old boy. I work full time as a teacher. I have a loving and supportive family, but sometimes I still feel very lonely. I am the first in my family to get divorced. My ex is in and out of our son's life (very inconsistent) and I don't always know what to say to my son about why. I worry that my son will hate me because he does not have a daddy. I also worry that I won't be able to give him everything he deserves. Any advice?


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Well, First thing is first.. It is not your fault about your ex. Sometimes things don't work out and all. As for your son hating you because of the daddy bit.. That I doubt. For the simple reason is, he knows you are there all the time for him.. daddy is not. Just be honest with him of the daddy bit..Cause if you don't.. later on as he grows up, he might get upset with you for not telling the truth.

Don't worry about not being able to give everything he deserves.. CAUSE YOU ALREADY ARE! You are being his mom.. Anyone can mother a child, but it takes someone special to be a mom.. A mom, loves her child with all her heart and does everything possible. You are supporting you child, giving him what he needs.. So , he is getting what he deserves from you.. YOUR LOVE. And that is the truest thing that you can ever give.

As for the dad.. if he isn't in the picture.. well he is missing out on his son and when your son grows up.. he is going to hate him for not being there and where will he turn to again... YOU.. Because YOU are the one whom is there for him. So, he is a very lucky little boy to have someone there with him that loves him and is doing everything to take care of him and giving what he needs.

So, just keep up the work of supporting him and showing him that you love him. When his dad lies or whatever , tell him why and what is going on.

As for the lonely bit and being the first to get divorced.. Well look at it this way.. at least you got divorced before it got worse. Some women stays in a marriage and it gets worse and they don't know how to get out of it.
But, even though you are divorced.. look at it this way..everything happens for a reason and there just might be something better that is in stored for you and your little one.

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