some one i need advice. first off i have two adorable boys. one 4 one 2. my oldest has such a behaivor problem. he attacks his younger brother for no reason at all. he talks back constantly , i feel like such a bad guy always yelling and putting my son in time outs. he screams and whines over everything! its very frusterating. 2nd, ive been with my boyfriend for 4 yrs next month. i cheated in our relationship the first week we were together, and i used to lie to him about alot of things, now 3 years later i am changed and have tried everything to change his mind about me. ( i am 21 he is 23) . he constantly starts arguements now and makes up crazy stories in his head, then accuses me of everythung he makes up! he thinks im having sex with other men.. i just dont know. im driving myself insane because he treats me like such garbage. i love him with everything i have, and i hold onto him tight because he is the only thing that has been constant in my life. and my kids love him so much. please someone give me advice. i know i shouldnt let him control me... i just dont know what to do anymore. help!

Kayla - posted on 01/26/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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some one i need advice.i am a 21 year old mother.. had my first at 16 my second at 19. first off i have two adorable boys. one 4 one 2. my oldest has such a behaivor problem. he attacks his younger brother for no reason at all. he talks back constantly , i feel like such a bad guy always yelling and putting my son in time outs. he screams and whines over everything! its very frusterating. 2nd, ive been with my boyfriend for 4 yrs next month. i cheated in our relationship the first week we were together, and i used to lie to him about alot of things, now 3 years later i am changed and have tried everything to change his mind about me. ( i am 21 he is 23) . he constantly starts arguements now and makes up crazy stories in his head, then accuses me of everythung he makes up! he thinks im having sex with other men.. i just dont know. im driving myself insane because he treats me like such garbage. i love him with everything i have, and i hold onto him tight because he is the only thing that has been constant in my life. and my kids love him so much. please someone give me advice. i know i shouldnt let him control me... i just dont know what to do anymore. help!

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Kay - posted on 01/26/2012

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Have you considered the fact that your two issues might be linked?



Acting out can be a definite sign that a child is reacting to an unstable home situation. Your son may be reacting to the tension and also to the lack of respect it appears that your boyfriend is showing you.



Sometimes walking away is the only way to show your man that you will not tolerate him treating you badly. Worst case scenario, you move on with your life and raise your kids. Best case, he straightens up and you can move forward together.

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