somebody help me please i need guidance with my child ?

Nohely - posted on 04/10/2012 ( 53 moms have responded )

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My son will be 2 in July. He started to say words a few months back all of a sudden he stopped! And he's become EXTREMELY clumsy. He hits his head on a daily basis plus falls ALL the TIME. He babbles a lot and gets mad when you try telling him what things are to get him to talk. (he will get so mad he will throw a HUGE tantrum and scream high pitch till your ears hurt) He was the sweetest and now his changed. My son refuses to talk, and points at what he wants and/or throws his sippy cup at me to let me know what he wants. He refuses to play nice and fights constantly with his sister and cousin. Also lately its hard to put him down for a nap....i just want to know what i should my other children were never like this. He HATES going with anybody and everybody thats not me or his dad. He wont go with his grandparents, aunts, uncles. I dont know what to do please help me anybody my son worries me on a daily basis and it kills me as his mom to not know what is going on. :'(

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Cassandra - posted on 04/11/2012

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I see a lot of people talking about the Autism Spectrum, don't get scared by this, if your son has developmental delays an early intervention program will help him catch up an just because a child is placed in the spectrum doesn't mean he is autistic, it just means he has characteristics. Get your son evaluated by doctor an a multidisciplinary team, take a deep breath you will figure it out. Remember to tell the doctor that he has regressed this is very important, I'm a early childhood developmental specialist (special Ed) teacher an I would not let this go, every state has a free program for children from birth to three yrs for evaluation an therapy, if you cant find one send me a msg an I will look up your states groups.

Mary - posted on 04/11/2012

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Given that he has become extremely clumsy and that he had and lost speech I would bring him to your pediatrician and if you are not comfortable with that result, go for a second opinion. I am a Speech Language Pathologist and having and losing speech and hitting his head and falling "all the time" are things you need to look into. Your gut is telling you something isn't right, follow your gut, it never lies! Best of luck, I am sure you will get some answers to send you in the right direction.

Ruth - posted on 04/12/2012

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Please have him tested for Autism. The latest numbers are 1 in every 88 children have it. Usually boys but some girls do too. They have problems socializing and even though they start talking normally they soon quit. The tantrums are called meltdowns. My little grandson started out normally also and then quit talking. He was seen by a specialist at age 21/2 and is now in first grade at school. They seem to start talking but it is echolalia where they just mimic what they hear. There are various degrees of Autism from the very mildest to the very worst kind. Please have him seen by a specialist and the sooner he is diagnosed the better because he can be helped.

Amanda - posted on 04/12/2012

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First, every child is different. My friends two year old did the same thing. She worried and took him to the doctor where she made them do every test under sun and nothing was wrong with him. He is two. My son also went through something the same. He could talk up a storm and then one day he barely said anything. It lasted a month. He would point and I would say I don't understand fingers I only understand words. He got the hint. Yes he would only say Juice or Apple etc. But he was talking. About two weeks later I had an apt with our family doctor and he usually talked up a storm with her, but he was very quite. All she said was "Oh you are going through the rebel stage of the terrible 2's" She told me it is nothing to worry about. He also went through the falling all the time stage. You have to remember that he is still learning balance and as his body grows his balance will change. As his feet grow he will trip over them a lot and will for many years. Yes something could be wrong. Kids fall it is part of growing up and learning how to walk on your two feet. My son is now four and still falls all the time. When he does fall a lot i know his feet are growing and needs new shoes. He is going through it again. He has starting to point at things and act like a baby because he has little cousin. Try not to worry cause he can feel that you are frustrated and worried and that wont help him. Every child is different and every child will test their boundaries different. Good luck and I pray that nothing is wrong and you just have a rebel on your hands!

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Sindy - posted on 05/04/2012

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My son did exactly that, I almost felt like he was going backwards. They did MRI, ct and all kinds of bloodwork. It turned out he has severe ADHD. He was getting angry because he could not learn how to communicate, he was never hyper, but very distracted. Then he turned violent when he couldn't communicate. Now after 3 years of treatment with diffrent ADHD medications, you would never know he stated talking at 6.

Sharon - posted on 04/23/2012

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I had something similar with my 2 yr old. Turned out that he needed grommets in both ears…5 months on and his is now telling me his has smelly toes saying bye bye daddy and pointing at my car saying mummys car!



Get his ears checked made a huge difference to my LO.

Best of luck

Amanda - posted on 04/18/2012

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Yes it can be normal two year old behavior. Why it is cause your child didn't do this parents thinks it isn't normal. Every child is different and every child will develop different. My son went through the throwing things when he got mad and couldn't tell me what he wanted. At two their body is faster then their minds so they fall. They want to run like the wind but are still learning balance. My son hit is head on the floor all the time still does cause he likes the feeling of it. He goes to nursery school and his teacher is impressed with his speech this year. His doctor wasn't worried when I told her that he hit his head on the floor or walls. She said lots of kids will go through that mine did too. They just like the feeling and your reaction to it. So don't go tell a mom it isn't normal. You just worry them more. EVERY CHILD IS DIFFERENT FROM YOURS. EVERY CHILD WILL DO DIFFERENT THINGS WHEN THEY GET FRUSTRATED AND UPSET. Hang in there mom he may grow out of it before you even now it. I hope all is well!

Katherine - posted on 04/17/2012

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Well I for sure didn't name MY daughter GRACE! But this sounds like a major hearing problem to me. His equilibrium is definitely off. He is hitting his head and falling on a daily basis! He won't talk, throws thinks out of frustration.....no this is not normal 2 year old behavior IMO.

Meagen - posted on 04/17/2012

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If your worried, definitely take him to the Dr. Ask about having him tested by a speech language pathologist and/or audiologist. But (and I'm not making light of this at all, I have a 2 1/2 yo) he sounds like he's 2. At this age they begin to have more separation anxiety. They also want to do a lot more things on their own, but are not developmentally ready for them. They rush to try new things and fall or look clumsy. They want more control, so they fight you at every turn. Every thing I say I'm going to, my daughter respons, No, I do it. Even going to the potty. I say, "Stella, Mommy's going to the potty. I'll be right back." She says, "No, I go to the potty!" She has only just started potty trianing. She also "lost some words" at around 2. I think they're learned so many new things that the old ones are boring. About 1 month after her 2nd b-day, her vocabulary exploded! They get VERY frustrated and have no way to express it. So they get mad and have tantrums or cry. Sometimes my daughter just can't tell us what she want, so we go on hunt with her pointing the way while we carry her. Whichever way she points, is the way we go. Usually she forgets what she was after and it turns into a game. She gets to feel in control too. We had nap problems too until I found out her daycare teacher justs puts her on her mat and she goes to sleep. I got her a mat and it's gotten much easier, not perfect. Although she doesn't have to go to daycare ( we only started because I was having such a hard time while I was pregnant with her brother) she loves it so we keep her there. It's made a huge difference because it's very educational. She talks non-stop now. Not that we always understand her. :D But I don't think you should stress yourself out so much. If your worried, take him to the doctor. He/she is going to be able to give you the best advice. If your still worried, ask for a referal to a speech language pathologist or other specialist. I was really worried about my daughter, but my sister is an SLP so I had it a little easier. Good luck

Amy - posted on 04/13/2012

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In addition to going to the drs, Also remember that your 2 year old had a few words and now doesn't doesn't have them. He is frustrated and needs your empath y and at the same time know that hitting people won't bring his words back. Hope this helps. Amy

Jax - posted on 04/13/2012

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I don't want to scare you but this also sounds suspiciously like you could be witnessing the onset of autism. Do get your child evaluated ASAP; That said, there are a number of conditions this could be describing and we'll all hope you are just seeing an extreme case of the "terrible twos". Best fortune and don't give up until you GET answers. Good and satisfactory answers. If the first doctor doesn't find anything, keep hunting. I'd check first in your community and find out where your child can be evaluated for autism, though. Early intervention makes a massive difference in the outcome for both the autistic child and their family!

Michelle - posted on 04/12/2012

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How much sleep is he getting? He should have 11- 13 hours. Do you allow him to eat or drink sugary things ( candy, soda, some juices with high fructose corn syrup. If so teach him too much sugar is got good and limit to very little sugar and not every day.

Jenna - posted on 04/12/2012

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I don't understand why people post on sites like this without first TALKING TO A DOCTOR. Is this your first child? If it is then your lack of experience would explain asking complete strangers to diagnose your child for you. Posting after you speak with a doctor for support or ideas makes total sense, but please get that child to a DOCTOR!

Debi - posted on 04/12/2012

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I would take him to see a doctor. The fact he's stopped talking raises some red flags for me. The hitting of the head as well. I would just have him checked out. Could be an ear infection, could be a very dramatic 2 year old, could be something more. Best of luck dear.

Erin - posted on 04/12/2012

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I would talk to your doc, it sounds like his ears, but i am not a doc. Sending prayers your way. You are a Great mom! This is just a bump in the road.

Laurie - posted on 04/12/2012

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Losing a couple of words is normal at this age. They're replaced with others and will come back. This sounds like more than the terrible twos to me, please get him to the doctor and possibly to a pediatric neurologist!

Kristen - posted on 04/12/2012

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Having 4 boys, 2 of whom required Early Intervention to help them communicate, all I can tell you is follow your maternal insticts. Take him to his doctor and express your concerns. Do not let the doctor keep you from investigating, though. IF after your appointment you still have concerns, you can call Early Intervention without the doctor... You know your child best!

Tammy - posted on 04/12/2012

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Sounds to me like he has an ear infection that has got worse and is affecting his hearing. A friend of mine's little boy had exactly the same problem. He is completely fine now after a course of antibiotics.

Karah - posted on 04/12/2012

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Have you recenlty switched him from baby food to adult table food? It might be a dietary issue. Maybe a gluten intolerance? Most baby puffs are rice based but adult foods typically have loads of gluten. It can effect all sorts of things in his life. Poor lil guy. I hope you find an easy solution!

Sonya - posted on 04/12/2012

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Please contact early intervention and your ped! Trust your gut. It sounds like something is wrong! If you don't get good answers, find someone else to ask. I have a friend who was having all kinds of health issues and went to the best clinics in the USA (she is an adult and the issues were different) but no one could figure out what was wrong with her. She finally went to a holistic doctor who tested her for black mold exposure- which was what was causing all her problems! Amazing that for years she was sick and no one else ever thought to check.... I am just saying trust your gut and find help! Hope it is simple and easy to correct (and I am not trying to be alarmist- sorry if it sounds like I am).



Best to you and yours!

Sonya

Lindsey - posted on 04/12/2012

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Definitely trust your gut. Get him checked out. Don't fret about worst case scenarios, but check all your bases. You may try introducing some sign language. Kids pick up on signing very quickly. This is a great tool for all kids as it allows them another way to communicate when speech has become difficult for one reason or another. Also, read and talk with your child often. This helps them become familiar with language and how to communicate.

Ceri - posted on 04/12/2012

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I will say this, every one says Dr. which I agree with but while working with your Dr, also call up early intervention for your area. DO NOT WAIT or only go where your DR refers you. BOTH channels can be slow. If you have health insurance, you still can do both, and it doesn't matter if you do have health insurance or not for early intervention services. I took my son to our doctor because of speech issues. Got referred to a child center and it took 2 months of trying to get in to that center before I gave up and called the state services. For us in WA they set up an appointment for a screening, then once he did the screening based on that they wanted to evaluate him. He was 2 and a half when we started and we only got about 2 to 3 month of the intensive speech therapy before they talked about transitioning him in to preschool though our school district. I lost 2 months of time that he could have been in speech waiting to get an appointment to be EVALUATED with a specialist. We were screened, evaluated, and in therapy when I FINALLY got a call from them. The SOONER you take him to early intervention, the better. My son is 4 now, and I am TOTALY amazed at how much and well he talks. We went from less than 50% intelligibility to about 80%. He was only speaking one to 2 words at a time to now being able to hold a conversation. Also if you have a choice, get in a program where they have you as the parent be involved with his therapy. We learned SO much and were able to reinforce what he leaned in therapy at home. Good luck, hopefully its a bad ear infection, and it passes, but if not the faster you get help with him the better off he will be.

Dawn - posted on 04/12/2012

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I would voice concerns to your pediatrician. It may just be typical terrible 2 stuff. The only thing that seems concerning is the talking and change in balance. I am the mother of 7, ranging from 14 to 3 weeks in age. Some of the behaviors seem pretty typical for his age.

Donna - posted on 04/12/2012

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Get him to a doctor for a thorough physical..has he fallen and hit his head or has he been left with someone else and possibly been injured in some way? Try to think back and remember if anything could have happened to him. Perhaps another child hitting him in the head. Have his eyes and hearing tested. Make a list of all the unusual things he is doing to tell the pediatrician.

Elizabeth - posted on 04/12/2012

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I agree with Katherine Collins. Start there, and take it how it comes. He'll get better:)

Shatima - posted on 04/12/2012

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Take him to his Dr. And ask him to refer you to the early intervention program in your area.my son is going on 2 and when my mom took him to his regular Dr. appt. His Dr. noticed his speech admittedly and told my mom to have me call a speech therapist so he won't be effected later with speech problems I hope this was helpful

Ioana - posted on 04/12/2012

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Hi Nohely,
such a challenge for all of you, but I believe for your son is the worse..
I wish you all the luck in the world.
did you vaccinate him? did he have one recently? maybe something to consider, as some vaccinations could have these effects (also on bigger children)..
you could also try a homeopat and a chiropractor.
let us know what the doctor said..
all the love to you.

Ioana - posted on 04/12/2012

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Hi Nohely,
such a challenge for all of you, but I believe for your son is the worse..
I wish you all the luck in the world.
did you vaccinate him? did he have one recently? maybe something to consider, as some vaccinations could have these effects (also on bigger children)..
you could also try a homeopat and a chiropractor.
let us know what the doctor said..
all the love to you.

DANIELLE - posted on 04/11/2012

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take him to the dr asap my son had some of the same issues except for the clumpsyness. He wsue the dr said he has autism. At the age of 2 is when he started showing these signs and the drs didn't lable him as austic til he was 5.

Terrie - posted on 04/11/2012

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I can not diagnos him as I am not a doctor, but it does sound like he has something going on. Could be a mild form of Autism and could be Apraxia or both. The best thing to do is get a referral to a specialist to see what is going on. Early intervention is the key here. Do not ask the Pediatriction what he or she thinks just tell them your concerns and that you would like your child to see a specialist. In the mean time things that will help would be to let him go ahead and point. When you hand him things say please and thankyou for him. If he is having trouble saying the words and therapy is needed then getting the frustration level down is the main thing right now. Go back to the begining and take it one step at a time. My son has Autism and this is what we had to do after he lost words.

Kathryn - posted on 04/11/2012

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This sounds just like my son who was clumsy and lost words that he was making. His ultimate diagnosis was Apraxia. Google it to read more. He is NOT autistic, just Apraxic. He just finished his Early Intervention speech therapy and Physical therapy and he went from2 words to over 100 and making short sentences, play. The key to the best prognosis is early swift diagnosis and intervention. FYI my pediatrician refused to believe he was apraxic but I called in EI and he qualified for services. Finally a developmental pediatrician team evaluated him aandd diagnoosed him with apraxia. Good luck!

Kimberley - posted on 04/11/2012

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Have you noticed your son keeping one hand clenched in a fist? Just one, mind you, not both. I ask because your symtoms sound similar to something we went through with my son, and it started when we noticed his left hand was always in a fist. Balance issues were a huge part if it too.

Eva - posted on 04/11/2012

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As a teacher and a mother of three I would recommend that you have your son evaluated for autism. The age and symptoms are things to be seriously concerned about and sound typical of the early stages. If he is autistic, the earlier you intervene, the better the outcome will be. Good luck.

Audrey - posted on 04/11/2012

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Early intervention made a world of difference with my daughter, she went from pointing and throwing tantrums to using words to tell me what she wanted. today at 5 she has progressed to 3 to 4 word sentences on a regular basis and occasionally longer ones. She's smart, bright, happy and very talkative once she was shown how to communicate her needs and wants. she still has tends towards fits when she doesn't get her way but is vastly improved and is learning social skills, playing with others and will happily go off with someone when I ask her to now. She is receiving therapy and is getting an evaluation to see if she can be helped with her clumsiness and other physical skills such as writing, etc. An early intervention team can help your child and *YOU* greatly.

Shilpa - posted on 04/11/2012

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i agree with Audrey. My son too started the same thing and ended up with a autism spectrum disorder! So don't waste time and get it checked.

Audrey - posted on 04/11/2012

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I agree with the others, he absolutely needs to go to the doctor to make sure there is no hearing, inner ear (balance) or neurological problems. I would also have him checked for developmental delays....my daughter started the same thing as he is doing and was diagnosed for autism spectrum disorder. Whatever his problems are, I hope his pediatrician can help you and help you determine what is affecting your son. *hugs*

Donna - posted on 04/11/2012

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I would get him to a doctor ASAP. He could have a neurological problem. this is something you need to do NOW-good luck & please keep us posted on this. It also could have something to do with his inner ear. Will be praying for you & your son.

Katherine - posted on 04/11/2012

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Nohely, let us know what happens! I hope they check his hearing. Poor guy.

Joanne - posted on 04/11/2012

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I have read that the tantrums are worse when they get frustrated that they can't communicate what they want. I would also see if your county/state/school district has an infants and toddlers program for early intervention - my little guy was in that to help with his motor skills and they also had help with verbal communication.

Jessica - posted on 04/11/2012

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My sons personality completly changed around his 2nd birthday. Temper tantrums, throws hmself on the ground, loudest screech you've ever encountered. He has some words but def doesn't have a full vocab. He did 'lose' a couple words but gained ones in place. Used to say chicken, lost that but says dog in its place. The dr gives a test that he passed with flying colors, I think its just him going through those terrible 2s. He literally woke up in a mood that day and gained it since. ♥

Pearl - posted on 04/11/2012

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OK not just because he is a boy the thing that concerns me is he was talking then stopped you really need a Dr involved in this and a good one. It could be hearing but there are other things also that only a doctor can detemine and well mening advice givers can not. And by the way my son (yes a boy) spoke in full sentences before he was 2. Don't count boys out!

Faye - posted on 04/11/2012

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I also agree. Sounds like it's most likely something to do with his hearing/ears.

Nohely - posted on 04/10/2012

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thank you ladies i will take your advice ^_^

ill let you guys know what happenes

Liz - posted on 04/10/2012

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I agree with Katherine. Take him to the doc. He might have an ear infection that has just gotten worse and caused him to have a rotten attitude.

Nohely - posted on 04/10/2012

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I try not to talk for him but sometimes i do...i try really hard to have him talk to me tell me what it is he wants but he throws himself on the floor and just throws a big tantrum. I tell him tha'ts not ok he gets mad i walk away he gets mad i feel like there is no way around him when it comes to him getting mad. Now he started to want to sleep in my bed when he was fine sleeping in his room in his bed he takes me to my room and climbs my bed and points to it for me to get in he always points for EVERYTHING.

Katherine - posted on 04/10/2012

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Sounds like a doctor's visit is in order. Do you ever speak FOR him? Or say things where he doesn't have to answer?



The clumsy part is concerning. He may need his hearing checked. It sounds like his equilibrium is off.

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