Someone I know has a Super thin looking child.

Pii - posted on 12/18/2013 ( 18 moms have responded )

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I am not on the greatest terms with the women's husband, so I can not go over there any more and ask her any questions. The only thing I can do is see Facebook feeds from her.
Her baby is in the later weeks of nine months and looks very sickly.
Her weight is 14 pounds and she is 26" long.

She might be under feeding her so that she grows up thinner. (speculation)
Her two older brothers were healthy fat babies who thinned
out to a normal weight as they got older.

Is her weight normal even though it looks like she is skin and bones?

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 12/18/2013

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Rule of thumb: If the physician isn't concerned, there's generally not a problem.

Another rule of thumb: When told to step out of someone's business, it's usually a good idea to do so.

Concern is one thing, but I feel that you're using "concern" as a cover for being pissed because they're evicting you.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 12/18/2013

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Well, what does the child's physician say? I don't doubt that the woman's husband told you to step off if you were continually harassing her about her child's health compared to other children.

Are you the parent of the child in question? Doesn't sound as if you are...

Are you related to a parent of the child in question? Since you refer to her as "the woman", I would say there's no relation.

Are there any other concerns related to the children in this household? How is the child's health, overall?

Did you know that, in general, this child's weight/length falls within the normal developmental levels for a female child of approximately 9 months? It does.

Are you trying to start trouble for someone based on very, very sketchy information? Sounds like you possibly could be.

So, to answer your question: YES.

The kid seems to be within a normal percentile for her age. Why do you ask

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Chey - posted on 12/19/2013

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Doe this child have health issues? This is huge in this matter. Many children have reflux and many children have sensory issues that result in poor eating. I would assume that if the other two children gained weight well that this isn't likely to be an issue with malnourishment or neglect, which seems to be what you are indicating. I have two sons that were small at that age. One of the is very picky and hyperactive, the other has oral dissabilities and was considered failure to thrive in the hospital. My third child however is absorbed in food, she loves to eat. She is nine months and 24 lbs. Every child is different and every child eats the way they need to and as much as they need to. Does the child appear active enough? Some children seem to get by on a few milk feeds, a bite or two here and there and develop and grow on love and air quite well. If you truly feel as if this child is being malnourished and these parentals are incompetent and neglectful, I feel you should be consulting with child services. Airing out dirty laundry is not benefiting this child.

Pii - posted on 12/19/2013

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I know that sometimes babies can be less tolerant then others to certain feeding types. Maybe ask your pediatrician about a change in formula. :)

I hope all goes well with your son Amanda. Good luck.

Jodi - posted on 12/18/2013

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"Since they are family I only want the best."

Don't you think that since she is the mother SHE only wants the best for her child? If there were concerns, surely you have enough faith in her parenting that she would have raised this with her doctor if she was concerned.

Xemoxprincessx - posted on 12/18/2013

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my son will be 10months on xmas. he weighs about the same as her and the doctor was worried at first but he hasnt said anything about his weight for a while. my son was 8lb 5oz when he was born. is she being breastfed or bottle fed? sometimes breastfed babies dont gain very quickly. even though the dr hasnt said anything about his weight for a while im still a little concerned. he eats and eats until he spews and then he wants more so i know its not that im not feeding him enough.

Pii - posted on 12/18/2013

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I am unsure what the doctor has said. Though I will ask my Grandmother for more information.

They have never told me to stay out of their business. I am not sure where that came from, but the mother of the child likes me.

I am not mad at my uncle in anyway. He is not mad at me. It comes down to paper work.

Pii - posted on 12/18/2013

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Sorry, I do not know what the doctor says about her weight.
Before asking the child's mother and voicing my concerns I wanted to get more information before jumping to conclusions.

The only thing I have to go on is her two older brothers, her birth weight, current weight, and her appearance.

I am concerned, but I am not looking to step on her toes when it comes to her own children. Since they are family I only want the best. For all I know, she might not be thinking about the weight to begin with.

Jodi - posted on 12/18/2013

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I am curious...what DOES the child's doctor say? I'm guessing you aren't privy to this information?

Pii - posted on 12/18/2013

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She was 7 pounds 14 oz at birth.
I'll double check the ounces, but I recall she was nearly 8 pounds.

So she is 14 pounds 2 oz now at 38 weeks old (9 months).
She has gained 6.3 pounds since birth.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 12/18/2013

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Hmmm...

Well, at the very least I got a good laugh out of the obvious desire to misread every little thing that I posted...

GOOD LUCK!

Pii - posted on 12/18/2013

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1: I don't see how you came to that conclusion, but alright.

2: I prefer to be vague to as not to point out who I might be speaking about. I would rather not have them become upset if they are also on this site.

3: If I was to start trouble, I would walk downstairs, knock on their door, and freak out on them with no idea what I am talking about. Hence looking for help.

4: To you, but not to the rest of the world.

Thank you. First link says she in under the lowest percentile. Actually after further reading, they all seem to state that she in under the lowest percentile by a pound, other than the different forum who seems to be mothers with under average weight children.

At lest with this information I'll be able to relay this information to my Grandmother who sees them 3-4 times a week.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 12/18/2013

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LMAO. My responses were directly in response to your post!

1: "I am not on the greatest terms with the woman's husband, so I can not go over there any more and ask her questions" Indicates that you've been harassing the family (In their or his point of view), and he's told you to step off.

2: "speculating that I have no relation to them, even though they are my aunt and uncle"...And how in the bloody hell did I know any different? Normally, folks who are referring to someone that they actually know and care about indicate that is the case. Generally, folks who refer to another as "the woman" or "that woman" aren't on very good terms with said woman.

3: "speculating that I'm trying to start trouble". I can't help it if I perceived your intentions differently than you tried to portray them. Written word is that way, my dear.

4: "using capitals to make your point is being read as a stern or loud response"...Well, that and/or putting EMPHASIS on what I wanted to say...but again, perception...

From a search: Different opinions on 'healthy weight/height' for a 9 month old. You'll see that they differ. http://www.livestrong.com/article/351064...

another parenting site: http://www.babycenter.com/400_ideal-weig...

http://www.disabled-world.com/artman/pub...

http://www.ehow.com/facts_5290651_normal...

So, I'd say if the child's physician is not concerned, you needn't be either.

Pii - posted on 12/18/2013

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"I don't doubt that the woman's husband told you to step off if you were continually harassing her about her child's health compared to other children."

Speculating that my uncle is telling me to "step off", even though I have yet to saying anything to them with my concerns for all of their children. Why would this be brought up in the first place?

"Are you related to a parent of the child in question? Since you refer to her as "the woman", I would say there's no relation."

Speculating that I have no relation to them, even though they are my aunt and uncle. Why would this even be a question to be asked? It makes no difference if I was or not. I could have been a close friend, someone who works with them, someone who works with their children, a neighbour, does it really matter who I am to them if I am worried for their children's sake?

"Are you trying to start trouble for someone based on very, very sketchy information? Sounds like you possibly could be."

Speculating that I am trying to "start trouble" even though I am just very concerned about a very thin looking/sickly child. You can see her ribs and the bones in her face

"So, to answer your question: YES."

Using capitals to make your point is being read as a stern or loud response. You can Google how all capitals are perceived while text communicating.


Healthy referred to their weight and height.

I have read up on a few things, but have only found roundabout answers that ultimately say to ask my physician. The only thing that I have found that would be partially helpful was the weight gain per month from start weight.
The baby has gained 6 pounds since birth. Which is below average.
I am still looking into it, but had hoped that someone here would have a better insight. Seems I was incorrect.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 12/18/2013

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Hmm...How is asking straightforward questions, and ultimately answering your question bashing you? And thank you for "clarifying" your post, or should I say changing your claim of "her two older brothers were healthy fat babies" to "the other two are always sick"...LOL...which is it? Are they healthy, or not?

You presented the situation in very vague terms, indicating that you are having issues with the family in question to begin with, and, well, to be quite honest, you could have answered your own question by a simple google search of normal growth charts for females aged 9 months.

So, I retract the rest, except for " What does the child's physician say"? And "YES, this child falls within the normal height/weight range for a female aged 9 months"

Pii - posted on 12/18/2013

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He is evicting me from his apartment if you honestly needed to know.
I am still on good terms with the mother though.
Thank you for prying.
She is my Aunt.
The other two are always sick and going to the doctor.
That is why I am here, to find out if it is normal.
No I am not, the mother is very nice, but she is not quite normal.
Do you always attack people who are concerned for their nieces and nephews?
I am only looking for help. If I knew I would be bashed and attacked on this site I wouldn't have bothered to join.

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