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Alicia - posted on 06/09/2015 ( 14 moms have responded )

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My son dont listen when me or his dad or anyone talk,what should i do

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Louise - posted on 06/11/2015

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How old is your child? Remember children have only been in this world for a short period of time, depending on their age. They don't know much. You have to teach him by your actions. Your reactions must be patient, kind, loving, and positive. Try reenforcing good behaviour by giving him rewards instead of taking away the things he loves.
Tell him that you will read him a book if he cooperates with you and does what he needs to do. Speak words of comfort, love and understanding to your child, he will respond in a more positive way to you than if you deprive him of what gives him comfort and security.
You want to make him feel secure not insecure. The way to achieve cooperation from your child is to tell him that you will reward him if he listens to you. You will find that he will prefer getting a reward than to be deprived of a loved toy that he needs to feel love.
Be patient, God loves you and is patient with you, do onto your son, as you would want God to do unto you.

Louise - posted on 06/11/2015

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Be PATIENT and kind with your child. Love him and keep reassuring him that you love him and talk to him in a calm tone of voice when you need him to listen to you.

It never helps when children are being spoken to, in a loud tone of voice. They don't respond well, and they tune out whomever elevates their voice at them.

It's normal for a child that age to be scattered when it comes to listening to care givers, whether it be mom, dad, grand-parents, or other care givers. Children at that age are testing out their people skills.

It's a phase, it won't last. You need use extra patience with him. Be kind and you child will respond to your loving kindness. Don't forget at that age their span of attention is somewhat limited. It's not their fault, it's the process of growing up. Whatever you do do not punish him with time out or things of that nature, if he doesn't listen, it's not his fault,
it's most like the approach of the adult dealing with this child that needs to be re-evaluated. When you want your child to listen to you, gently turn his attention to having him look at you in the eyes while you are trying to tell him something, he will stop what he is doing in order to look into your eyes and at that point you have his undivided attention for a few seconds, then speak to him calmly and tell him what you need his to know without getting upset, frustrated or impatient with him. It will require some time and effort on your part but that's how he'll learn to listen to you when you talk to you. Tell him often that you love him. He needs fro hear it, even though you may think that he doesn't hear you, trust me he does and it will help in your trying to get through to him. God bless you and remember 'Rome wasn't built in a day".

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/11/2015

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So, you used a belt on a 2 year old? Try the redirection method. It works much better than beating your child with a belt for God's sake.

Alicia - posted on 06/11/2015

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Am 22,às i said oshane only hear and listen to me when he wants to have his read or something to eat,i use a belt to get him scear today and he did listen so probly he need to see the belt a little more!!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/11/2015

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How old are YOU, alicia?

Tell your mother to butt out, and take charge of raising your child. While preschool is nice, it is NOT a good method of training your child, if you haven't even figured out how to get through to him yet. He's 2, so he's going to pick up the habits from other children.

The only way to get through is to be consistent. Constant redirection, constant interaction when he's not behaving. Talking doesn't work at this age. Showing does. Repeatedly.

Alicia - posted on 06/11/2015

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Evelyn to be honest i don't know,my mommy spoil him too because if i tell him no and hes crying mommy hush him so he just always do wrongs and run to mommy,i told her to stop but its a waste a breath!!!

Ev - posted on 06/11/2015

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Alicia--You should be doing what the others suggested and while sending him to preschool is a good idea for social interaction, what are you going to do when he picks up some things the other kids do that you do not want him to do?

Alicia - posted on 06/11/2015

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I do all that,i just cant wait for september to come for him to go school and see if he will change then

Alicia - posted on 06/10/2015

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So true,i will do just that!!! He even kiss his teeth when i talk to him and puch up his lips

Ev - posted on 06/10/2015

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And most kids this age do not remember five minutes later what they did or what you said about it. Talking to him is not going to get him to quit his actions. You need to show him what you want of him and how to do it. Talking and taking things do not work at this age. They only understand that things were taken but not why. You need to use simple terms when talking to him like "We do not hit." "We do not throw." When using these phrases such as the throwing one....do take the toy or object but do not give it back. You have to repeat these steps a lot at this age but it does get better.

Alicia - posted on 06/10/2015

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I take away what he love and he just cry himself to sleep or through something at meme and ran,i even talk to him and he said ok he wont do it again and the next five minutes their he goes again!!

Ev - posted on 06/09/2015

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Have you ever tried to give him consequences like time out or take away the things that he values most? And yes, two year old children do have favorite things. Have you ever been consistent in how you do discipline?

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