Jean - posted on 03/19/2015 ( no moms have responded yet )
I took care of my son by myself and we have an OK relationship before he moved on to College out of States. it was not an easy raising him my myself and tried my best to send him to private school for few years. I was always tight with finances and had to move out of California to a different State for a job when he was at the Age of 11. He was not happy about the move and we were fighting often but he continue his high school and moved on to College. the first year in College, he was doing well then he started drifting away and get in trouble with the university Police and Started drinking. he is now about 23 years of age and very disrespectful to me. I bought him a Condo in Virginia when he is attending university and we agreed that he will work part-time to help me with his university expenses. it has been a year and he only worked in the summer for a few months. whenever I ask him about his studies, he does not answer me. I only hear from him when his Bank account is low. He keep on complaining about his LOW T syndrome and his energy level and that I did a lousy job caring for him and he calls me bad names sometimes. I feel sometimes sick in my stomach whenever I have to deal with his disrespectful attitude. I already spent about 225 K between Buying him a Condo and his living and college expenses. I feel I do not have a life because of him. I keep on depriving myself of many things and I live cheap and do not travel as much to see other relatives. I love him. He is my only son and I feel guilty and keep on helping financially but things are not getting better.. I always wonder if there is any hope of him improving his attitude toward me.
I feel I need to move on with my life but the financial stress is not allowing to do much.
I am thinking now to sell home as I am getting close to Retirement and go life close to my cousins in Houston in a more affordable neighborhood so I can enjoy them before I get too old.