Son being bullied at school & school not dealing with it

Robin - posted on 09/05/2013 ( 9 moms have responded )

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My son was bullied all last year at school by 2 boys. 1 of them was in his class & they said that they were dealing with him (even though they said that they couldn't tell me what they done or even if they spoke to his parent), the other every time he said something to them about the other boy (I mentioned it as well) we always got the same answer "They aren't even in the same class, they don't see each other during the school day." When we told them it was happening at lunch time they said "We have lunch monitors in there & they haven't reported anything." It was bad enough that his Psychiatrist recommended getting a lawyer! I'm a single mother of 2 & have guardianship of my nephew, a lawyer is not something I can afford. This year he is in the same class with this boy & it started again, my son finally got tired of it & hit the kid in the head 2 times. My son got a referral for it. I decided to look in the school hand book (it's a K-12 school) & the only thing they say in it about bullying is Inappropriate Behavior. It has gotten to the point both last year & this year he don't even tell anyone cause nothing is done about it, they pull other students (supposed to be confidential) & question them about the situation, of course kid talk so it gets worse for my son, & they change the story to make it seem like my son is either making it up or he is over reacting. It is a charter school so I don't know who to call, I've tried the principle, talked too many times with the councilor, hie dad & I even had a meeting with them last year over this. If anyone can give me any suggestions or can point me in the right direction I would gratefully appreciate it. I also want to add that my son was & is the smallest 5/6 grader & the second youngest in the entire 5/6 grade. Thank you ahead of time

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Lynda - posted on 02/13/2014

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Send your boy in wired up and get a whole day's worth of the bullying; and more importantly, see if you can get proof on that tape that the teachers are not doing anything about it. Then go straight to the top, the Superintendent, with your tape as evidence and tell him or her that you are going straight to the media/news if he/she doesn't do something about the bullying immediately!

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They say they are dealing with it but the truth is they are doing nothing about it, it's as if they await something major happen in order to take action,don't wait, you must take action and take it to the highest level.

Kim - posted on 09/07/2013

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Many states have laws on bullying. I would look into it. My son has a bully too, stopbullying.gov was of some help to us.

Robin - posted on 09/07/2013

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I have done that last year that's when they started calling other kids in to question them about what happened. Problem is they always ask the other kid's friends & not my son's. I have an appointment Monday with another school to check it out & they have a on tolerance bullying policy. Crossing my fingers

Kim - posted on 09/06/2013

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Maybe just threatening to get a lawyer will prompt action from the school? I have heard that some parents send tape recorders to school to catch proof so they could demand more concrete action. I feel so bad that your son has to deal with this, NO ONE should :(

Gena - posted on 09/06/2013

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well obviosly that person realized that they are giving crap advice thats why that person mostprobably deleted the post. Just nasty how bullies go for "weaker" or even dead sick people.It just shows how sick they are and they are the weaker because they dont dare to pick on someone their own size.. tell that to your son,he must not think he is the weak one.

Robin - posted on 09/06/2013

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I am looking at different schools for him & no I'm not mad at him for hitting, actually I'm proud of him for finally standing up for himself. I don't see it now but someone did post (but I don't see it now) advice to make him stop hitting. This was his first time ever even getting in trouble at school & he is in 6th grade now. He truly an amazing boy, he is just short , super sensitive, & sounds like a chipmunk. This makes him easy prey for the bullies

Gena - posted on 09/06/2013

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My little sister was bullied by older kids because she had no hair..she had chemo and past away 8years ago.My parents also spoke to the teachers so they knew about the problem but they didnt do anything against it.In one lunch brake i caught them teasing her and i snapped,i grabbed a boy by the neck and the next thing the teachers were by me and told me i maynot play police at the school..i was so angry and fed up that a ran home and told my parents.My parents just went into the classroom where the bullies were and they started to tell how evil,sick and mean they are and that they shall feel ashamed of themselves..you can imagine how embaresing it was for them infront of the whole class! It helped and my sister then couldnt even go to school anymore due to her sickness. I will never let my son go to that school,and if he gets bullied at a school and the teachers dont do anything about it i will also do what my parents did and go make those bullies sooo small infront of the whole class! If you can change your sons school then do it.

Tanya - posted on 09/05/2013

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If you cannot afford a lawyer...

Change his school... get him out of there!

And go to the press... or threaten it at least!

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