Son Being Bullied, Bully's Parents In Denial

Andrea - posted on 05/02/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My son is in the end of his first year of middle school. He got suspended for two weeks, not because he retaliated by taking it out on the bully's bike, but because he brought a small pen knife to school. He only told me what had happened the evening before. About how this boy, who although he is the same age as my son, is taller than me - and does not have a sense of humor when the kids joke with him. I'm not saying my boy is perfect or an angel, but I am concerned when I hear this boy has picked him up by the neck and has thrown him on the ground or in the snow.
I tried to speak to the father ( a cop) , after I had to reimburse them for the damage to the bike my son caused. I suggested that the boys stay away from each other. I also said that my son would not have ever reacted this way if something else was not going on. He quickly tried to tell me that maybe it was other kids. Denial. I said to him that my son only had mentioned his son. Dead silence.
Now I'm wondering what recourse I should take if this boy starts with my son again, as he had, on the way home from school. I told my son to go back to the school and tell the principal. I asked my son why he never told me or the teachers, especially one, who moved from his elementary school to the middle school, who I met with him on the way home. He tells me, "Snitches get stitches." This is what the bully tells him. How do we handle this without it looking like we are the ones going after the bully because he complained about his bike?

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/03/2015

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Oh...and quite frankly if I heard of another kid bringing a knife to school, I would be petitioning for a heavy punishment among the other parents. Consider yourself and your son lucky that is all that happened. Especially since the other kids father is a cop.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/03/2015

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It sounds like you are in denial about your own son also. Yeah, the other kid should be reprimanded for sure. But your son took a knife to school. You don't see huge problem with that???

Go to the principal. Talk to him/her. Let them know your son was absolutely wrong. Make no excuses for your son. Explain what happen (once again with making excuses) and ask what your son should do or you should do if the bully starts up again.

Michelle - posted on 05/02/2015

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I agree with Jodi.
Your son has done the wrong thing and you seem to think that OK.
You should be discussing things with the principal and see where the school stands with bullying.

Jodi - posted on 05/02/2015

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Uh, I don't they are the only ones in denial. Your son took a knife to school, and if I am not mistaken, you seem to think that is a minor thing?

And why don't YOU speak to the principal about the bullying? So far, the only evidence of any altercations or bullying behaviour going on that you have mentioned are the behaviours of your son.

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