Andrea - posted on 05/02/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )
My son is in the end of his first year of middle school. He got suspended for two weeks, not because he retaliated by taking it out on the bully's bike, but because he brought a small pen knife to school. He only told me what had happened the evening before. About how this boy, who although he is the same age as my son, is taller than me - and does not have a sense of humor when the kids joke with him. I'm not saying my boy is perfect or an angel, but I am concerned when I hear this boy has picked him up by the neck and has thrown him on the ground or in the snow.
I tried to speak to the father ( a cop) , after I had to reimburse them for the damage to the bike my son caused. I suggested that the boys stay away from each other. I also said that my son would not have ever reacted this way if something else was not going on. He quickly tried to tell me that maybe it was other kids. Denial. I said to him that my son only had mentioned his son. Dead silence.
Now I'm wondering what recourse I should take if this boy starts with my son again, as he had, on the way home from school. I told my son to go back to the school and tell the principal. I asked my son why he never told me or the teachers, especially one, who moved from his elementary school to the middle school, who I met with him on the way home. He tells me, "Snitches get stitches." This is what the bully tells him. How do we handle this without it looking like we are the ones going after the bully because he complained about his bike?