son dating high school girl while he is in college

Lisa - posted on 03/28/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )




My son is a freshman in college and is currently dating a girl who is still in high school. He goes to college out of state and is only home for school breaks. Although I don't mind him dating, the problem is that he less time with his family when he comes home because he is with her family. When he is with us he is texting her and other members of her family. His attitude is very rude and he is disrepectful. Both my husband and I work very hard to support him while in college and to pay for his airline tickets home for school breaks. When I ask him to stop texting and give us his attention he gets angry. When I ask if she can spend time here instead he gets angry. When I remind him that we deserve respect he gets angry. When I remind him how much both me and his father do for him he gets angry. I even went so far as to tell him from now on he would have to pay for his own way home. This of course made him very upset. Is there a better way of handling this?


Medic - posted on 03/28/2011




I would not pay a ticket for my kid not to see me or treat me like shit. If this girl and his family want to see him oh so bad then they can foot the bill. Maybe he needs to grow up and learn some responsibility.


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Lisa - posted on 03/28/2011




Thanks everyone for the advice. My son is 19 and the girl is 18. I have thought about everything you all suggested but was a little apprehensive. Thanks! I signed up today with the intent of getting some help from other moms, and must say I am very impressed with this website and the support of other moms/women. Thanks!!!! I can't wait to offer my help to others and, if I need more again, getting more help!

Jackie - posted on 03/28/2011




I say let him come to you. The more you nag, the more you're going to push him away. He's young and coming into his own right now. He's feeling like an adult for the first time.

Although I wouldn't be the first to pay for his transportation, he'll come around.

Carolyn - posted on 03/28/2011




i agree, if he isnt able to give you some of his time and be respectful than he can either stay on campus or find his own way home. He is old enough to be given some of his own medicine too. If he does make his own way home, feel free to text other people while he is talking to you, be rude, get mad, spend most of your time gone etc. He`ll get the point if he is smart. im also a little bit evil LOL.

Bonnie many places the age of consent is 16 , and I have even heard some places as low as 14.

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