Megan - posted on 05/12/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )
I have a 4.5 year old son and I share custody with his father. I work at a hospital on night shift usually Thursday, Friday, Saturday nights. His father and I do not have a legal custody arrangement, we've tried to work it out between us. But here lately my son has been refusing to come with me, saying he wants to stay with his father. Instead of backing me up, his dad never tells him that it's mommy's day or has him ready to go when I get to his house to pick him up. Many times I've come to get him in the morning and his dad is still laying in bed with him and he's not even awake or dressed and ready to go. I am a single mom living on one income, I cover all of our son's health insurance premiums and I do not receive child support (not that I care because we usually have him equal days during the week) but it's hard to not have spare money to spend on our son the way his dad does. He says that he has more fun at his father's.
His dad has made it no secret that he resents me for not wanting to be with me anymore and that he blames me for his unhappiness. He's very intrusive into my life and I feel as though he uses our son to, in a way, still have control over me.
I'm so frustrated and I'm feeling like a failure of a parent. I try to make my sons life fun when he's with me but I also feel as though he needs discipline and guidance and a set schedule which he is not getting from his father. Am I not doing something right?