Mw - posted on 09/13/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
Hi, we live in a relatively small town, and our neighbor has a child the same age as my son (3.5 years old). Our neighbor's son has special needs, and is sometimes pretty violent, so we always need to keep an eye on things during play dates.
Recently our son has told us that he doesn't want to play with our neighbor anymore and that the neighbor scares him.
This is very difficult for us, because we know that our neighbors have had a really difficult time with their son's issues; they've even told us that they have felt isolated (e.g. he really doesn't have anyone who is willing to play with him other than our child). They are great great parents that we like to spend time with.
However, we also want to respect our child's wishes, and don't want to force him into situations where he feels scared--and, honestly, there are times when he cowers behind us when the neighbor hits him, has tantrums, etc. Any advice on how to deal with this situation?