Son is being sexually assaulted by his dad

Holly - posted on 12/27/2014 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I need help. My son's father was arrested for sexually assaulting him. Unfortunately he got off. Now the courts are forcing me to resume access. The last two times my son came home he was extremely ill (not a flu or cold). He vomited one time and had very chemical smelling diarreah. Now I am obsessing that his dad may be drugging him. I tried to take him to his doctor but he's been away because of the holidays. Something is going on and I am having a hard time proving it. His dad is slick and dirty and the judge loves him and believes he is innocent. I need help to try to gather evidence to prove something has/is happening to my son. It's a long crazy story, but I have basically done gone down every avenue I can think of to stop this madness.

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Dove - posted on 12/28/2014

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If you have a lawyer... I'd be getting a different one and requesting another judge if that's possible in your area. I'd also be taking him to the doctor EVERY time you have even the slightest concern... and get him into counseling immediately w/ a psychologist willing to testify in court (these can be hard to find sometimes).

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Tiyauna - posted on 12/28/2014

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What state are you in? Some states will let you go to court in cities that are in the same county ever think about moving?

Holly - posted on 12/28/2014

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Believe me, it's a hard pill to swallow to have to hand your child back over to his perpetrator. It was not by choice

Holly - posted on 12/28/2014

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We are both in therapy. I have a support letter from his counsellor and teacher. One of the problems is that the counselling took sooo long ( 6 weeks after his disclosure), that he started to close up and recanted. My son only ever told the therapist twice (in passing) that his dad touched him. Unfortunately she's very slow and I feel that the time has passed for my son to go down that road again. At least not until his father leaves the country; which I hope is soon! Children's Aid is actually on our side, but because there is no physical evidence, they can't order supervised. It's such BS

Holly - posted on 12/28/2014

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No, nothing. He's trying to claim alienation. I have tons of evidence against him in regards to my son and myself. The problem is the judge loves my ex. She even made me pay him costs the last time I went to court because I brought up the history of violence. She is corrupt and should be removed. My city is lame and she is mostly the only one who presides over family court. It's near to impossible to get another judge, plus if I make the appeal and it doesn't go through she punishes me more. It's a lose lose.

Tiyauna - posted on 12/28/2014

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Sounds like he paid off THAT judge, try a different court and get all your facts together. Does he have anything Big against you that he could use as a counter measure?

Holly - posted on 12/28/2014

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I have a lot of evidence, but the judge is ignoring the history of abuse.
This has been a nightmare. I am going to see if I can get a Children's Lawyer involved

Tiyauna - posted on 12/27/2014

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Take your son to the emergency room IMEDIATLY!!! They will preform a rape kit and check him for STDs and drugs, How come you let your son go over there unsupervised? Most judges wouldn't allow that unless you're missing parts of the story.

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