Son's girlfriend logging onto his Facebook? Its gotta STOP

Barbie - posted on 04/08/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

2

0

0

I have a situation that I'm not sure how to handle. My 15 year old son's girlfriend has been logging onto his Facebook account and sending mean threatening messages to people on his friends list - well I should say those few that remain unblocked by her are getting threatening messages or smart responses made on their status'....how do I go about stopping her? I've told my son twice to change his password, he hasn't (up until last night that is, and I'm still unsure if it happened then). Many will say, well just take his Facebook access away, but I really don't want to do that and take away what little outside involvement he has with his friends..seems she's a bit of a control freak and has managed to alienate most of his friends....any words of advice?

MOST HELPFUL POSTS

Liz - posted on 04/08/2013

1,047

15

260

If he knows what the corrective action is (changing his password) and hasn't done that, then really the mess is his own problem. If he wants her to alienate all his friends, then that's up to him.

You could try pointing out that relationships at his age don't necessarily last that long, so it would be a shame to find out in 6 months time that he's no longer with this girl but that none of his former friends want to know him any more.

Sarah - posted on 04/08/2013

3,879

14

1082

I would lean more on taking away the facebook access also. There are other ways he can communicate with his friends. My kids don't have facebook accounts, but chat with their friends A LOT. There are SO many different avenues to use to stay connected with friends. He can go to the stone ages when we your kids and use the phone :) or he can also text or even facetime his friends. There are also more programs that are out there then these. All these are free and the only thing needed is wifi...same as facebook. I would say you need to sit down and make some rules for him as to what is allowed and what is not allowed with the communication things that are available to him. All these things should be privileges for him and he must then show that he can handle those privileges or they will be taken away. The phone and even inviting his friends over to your house might actually be a good thing instead of it all being electronic.

3 Comments

View replies by

Liz - posted on 04/08/2013

1,047

15

260

I must admit that I'm intrigued as to how much you parent his electronic activities. Gadgets, tech in general and certainly the internet are the way of life for the current generation of youngsters, but that doesn't mean that they should get to use all of this either with impunity or with lack of supervision.

Do you know what else he does and says on Facebook? Does he have a computer in his bedroom that he can use without anyone else monitoring him? You can google for tips for great parental rules regarding teenager computer use.

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms