Son's very difficult to teach and discipline

Belinda - posted on 12/07/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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It seems the harder I try to teach my son to listen the worse he gets, he hates doing homework, I have the feeling he feels bored with it. I tried asking him to tell me how he feels and what is boring him but nothing. I would like my child to excel in his school work but nothing help, he does not sit still he does not listen to instruction and when I ask him to read he just complains. Please help I would like to help him but how?

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Raye - posted on 12/09/2015

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Praise him when he puts forth honest effort and when he does well; even on the things that he should be doing, like homework. Pay attention to when he does display the behaviors you want, and point them out to him, and tell him you're proud of him. Maybe get him involved in more social activities (boy scouts, sports, etc.) so he can get more comfortable interacting with different people and coming out of his shell.

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Belinda - posted on 12/09/2015

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Thanks Raye

Do understand, I have also noticed he does not have a lot of self confidence. He hides himself when you ask him about himself, how do I work on that. He has a cousin which exceeds in everything he does and it makes him feel lower, how can I teach him he is his own person and to trust his own feelings and that he can do well as well.

Raye - posted on 12/08/2015

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You have to be consistent with him and make him do the work. If he's used to you backing down, of course he will push you to try to get to you back down. You can't give in. Not once. Many times in life we have to do things we're not happy about. The sooner your son learns that, and learns how to cope with doing what needs to be done even if it's boring or unpleasant, the better off your son will be.

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