Son wont go to school

Julie - posted on 02/10/2014 ( 13 moms have responded )

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I AM AT MY WITS END MY SON REFUSES TO GO TO SCHOOL SAYING HE CANT COPE WITH PEOPLE HE KNOWS AND I THINK HE IS NOW BECOMING AGRAPHOBIC HE IS 15 IN MARCH AD ITSIMPORTANT HE IS THERE FOR GCSE DOES ANYONE ELSE HAVE THIS PROBLEM?

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Jodi - posted on 02/12/2014

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I should add that we too have problems with one of our sons not wanting to be in school. It's been a battle sometimes, but it's worth it.

Jodi - posted on 02/12/2014

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I also have a 15 year old son and to me going to school is not an option. However with that said, my first reaction would be to do some deeper digging to find out why he really doesn't want to be there. Not what he tells you, but the real reason. Does he not have many friends, is he being picked on, are there problems with teachers, ect... I tell my boys ages 16,15, 12 & 8 years old that there are a lot of things in life that we don't like and feel we can't deal with, but that not all things are optional. That you don't just get a free pass on life because something is difficult. If they feel they can not cope with something then we work together to figure out a solution. If we can't teach then how to handle difficulties now then as adults this world will become a huge mess. A world of people who just run away from responsibility and difficulty.

Learning to cope with difficulties is part of growing up and our responsibility as parents to help them learn how to go about doing so.

You may consider looking into a counselor. Not only for him, but for you so that you can learn how to better teach him coping mechanisms.

Mary - posted on 02/12/2014

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if i were in your shoes i would have a chat with the school they might be able to shed some light on who he hangs around with what is he like in class etc..
after that talk to him again and let him know you were talking to teachers even though he might get mad thats tough if he wont tell you wants going on you have to find out somewhere else,
there are many reasons for him not wanting to go to school could be teachers, bullies, girl problems maybe he had an embarassing incident who knows talk to teachers friends and him,
tell him if he doesnt want to go back to that school he has to start a new one tough love is hard but you need to light a fire under his bum to get him going again.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/11/2014

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What is it with all of this "I can't get my kid to go to school" crap?

WHO ARE THE PARENTS IN YOUR HOMES???????????????????

Julie's got a valid problem with her son. Most likely he's suffering from some asshole who thinks its fun to bully the smart kids. That's a valid reason for a kid to not want to go to school, and it needs to be handled.

Anything but bullying needs a firm kick in the ass, and some damned consequences for not fulfilling their responsibilities. Its not that hard. I've successfully graduated one, and my second will graduate in 2 years. Yes, I have to keep an eye on what's going on with him, and with school, but never, ever would either of my kids have thought to try to not go, for ANY reason. Because they knew that there would be consequences.

Shannon - posted on 02/10/2014

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He is probably depressed. Maybe experimenting with drugs/ alcohol? Try to understand and get him help. Also find the best school counselor to help and support him so he doesn't get expelled or drop out. What kind of grades does he get? I don't have a teenage child but I was like that in high school. I wasn't challenged and skipped all the time. Just hated being there and felt so numb. Home life was hard and didn't connect with classmates. Just ask him how he feels, genuinely listen and go from there.

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Doug - posted on 02/11/2014

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Girlfriends and marijuana. Leaves no room for interest in school. I have two teenage boys asleep right now that should be at school. One is not even mine. What do you do?

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/10/2014

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If he's saying he 'can't cope with people he knows', he's being bullied, and that needs to be looked into.

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