Holly - posted on 09/16/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )
Hi all, what do you think I should do about my sons father, he is an alcoholic who recently got a dui and a reckless driving, he is taking the required classes but is still drinking. He has shown up in the past completely drunk an rambling over here so of course my son isnt allowed to be alone with him. I let him visit once in a while an lately he has been saying he isnt drinking but silly me I trusted him to watch our son, (hes 5), for a few hours one evening, well my kid told me that his dad left him in the bath tub while he ran up to the store, (for beer), the store is really close but for obvious reasons I am upset and cant trust him to safely have our son in his care. I am not sure how to handle this anymore, in the past we have set up dates to have him and while I have dropped our son off we have found him two weekends in a row passed out in his bed and beer cans everywhere when he knew our son had plans to visit and had "reminder calls that morning" In the past he has also flaked a lot on the weekends when he was suppose to come by so I am at a loss here, I dont want my son to be in any danger or grow up thinking its ok to be a drunk.
I might add, that he does call an beg to see him so it makes it hard on us, also he is older than me, hes 37 and still lives at home and is really irresponsible. His daughter told me a few years back when she was 9 camping over there her dad gave her a mikes hard lemonade, I couldnt believe that! I'm not sure if he would do that to our son either so this is another reason why i dont let our son go over there. Are there places that he can do supervised visits? Or should I 86 him completely at this point, I'm really afraid for my son growing up and feeling like his dad always choose a bottle over him.