Linda - posted on 08/03/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )
Two years my now 22 year sons girlfriend was kicked out of her home by her very abusive mother. My husband and I took her into our home helped her with getting into college not financially but with paperwork for loans. At first she lived in the dorm but found that too hard since then she has moved into a spare room we have in the lower level of our home. We pay for her phone she drives one of the cars that is on my name and for which I carry the car insurance on. She calls us mom and dad. Fast forward to February my son and her are no longer together. She works two part time jobs but when I asked her to put the car in her name and obtain insurance she says she can't afford it. My husband also has her on his cell phone plan which he pays for. When she is not working she is going out all the time with her friends i believe partying. By the way she is 21 yrs old. My son is a homebody works everyday but enjoys spending his free time with his family she however likes to go out all the time. I think my son is still in love with her and it breaks my heart. She uses Facebook all the time and posts everything she does with pictures and posts. I know he reads them and sees she is moving on with her life. She doesn't help me around the house is no help for financially she doesn't even buy her own body wash or shampoo. Kinda feel taken advantage of here. Spoke to my son and asked if he has a problem with her living here he said no he does not! Spoke to my husband and he said he would talk to her about the cell phone and car insurance but he feels we made s commitment to her to allow her to live in our while she attends school. That my sons relationship problems are his problems and I shouldn't let her stress me out. Just want to know how other moms feel about this living arrangement because it really bothers me that we as parents ever put our family in this situation to begin with.