sons girlfriend. wants a baby at 16

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Jodi - posted on 09/16/2015

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Education, education, education. He has made it clear to you he does not want a baby and is not ready to be a father. Work with that. Make sure he is using birth control. Let him know that it is not a good idea for him to believe that she is on birth control because women who want babies WILL trick men into it that way. Even women you think you could trust. Sit down with him and work through with him what it COSTS to support not only the baby, but a pregnant mother or stay at home mum (because she won't have an education) on a minimum wage job. Try to show him what that looks like.

Patricia - posted on 09/15/2015

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He is not ready for a baby , he says he understand and hes not ready ..they only talk at school now i have no control there ..hopefully what im doing works at least doing my best for him

Patricia - posted on 09/15/2015

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No he doesn't i have Him in extra tutorial and some volunteer work so it can look good for scholarships ,and i think she see the few things he has like truck allowance so his punishment was truck phone and lil money I would save for him ...so hes a busy kid thats why i guess it was ok for her to do it at a park during lunch ..i hope He opens his eyes.. and as for her no job and probably expects us to financialy support her ..ive tried with her but she doesnt seem to understand...

Dove - posted on 09/15/2015

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Does he have a job that pays enough to support himself, his girlfriend, and a baby? If not... I'd let him know that being involved w/ someone who wants a baby at this age is NOT smart... birth control can fail and a desperate girl can sabotage it... He may still not listen, but it's worth repeating.

If she really thinks she's mature enough... does SHE have a job that pays enough to fully support herself and a child? Might be worth mentioning that to her as well...

Patricia - posted on 09/15/2015

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We do talk about birth control and the Struggles of being a teen parent ..and he says he understands i just so afraid of it happening i guess ..ive tried talking to her but she says she mature enough and im not her parents so i talked to her parents but they didnt seem concerned... Just hope he hears me n understands

Michelle - posted on 09/15/2015

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Probably over reacting a bit. You should be educating him about birth control (condoms) and what having a baby at such a young age will cost.
If they really want to be together, they will find a way and I don't think you really want him sneaking around to be with her.

Patricia - posted on 09/15/2015

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found out he lost his virginity 3 weeks ago she's experienced and it wasn't her first time time I've talked to him a lot about just waiting for the right person and when he's way older he says he understands and he doesn't want any kids but it's his first and she's always talking about she wants a baby and he's always I love you and ok she always says if you love me then we can we can I took his phone his t from him Truck from him..they were leaving during. Lunch n going to a park ..so now I take him to school pick me up from school and he's grounded in my overreacting or how should I handle It shoul i trust him

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