Sons masturbation

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Is my sons masturbation going to far? I have had a talk with him about sexuality and believe he is masturbating at the age of 14. During my talk with him I had asked if he has been masturbating. He denied it so id did not press on. The reason that I think he may be masturbating with my house slippers. A few months ago I went to put them on and I am pretty sure there was ejaculate in the toe of my slipper. I at first thought nothing of it but it seems to be happening more often. I believe he might have a foot fetish but don't know how to approach him being a single mom that I am. Did anyone else ever experience a situation of mine? He only seems to be doing it with my slippers. I am wondering if I should just hide my slippers or take them with me to work. Thanks for your help. M

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I don't have insurance and specialists are more pricier than regular doctors. He does not use any other shoes but my slippers. I think he likes the smell. My frend told me also not to worry about it. He I s very social, good grades and a girlfriend. I caught him almost a few times. You know anyone who has been in a similar situation?

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you could hide them/ take them. Have you talked about sanitary stuff with "toys".
It seems like you are open about this stuff. Maybe just explain to him it's ok to use something as long as it is only used for masturbation and nothing else. This would make him hopefully become grossed out if he is using your slipper *I REALLY hope he isn't* without you accusing him of it.

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Leela - posted on 01/05/2014

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I've heard about this before and I was just as stunned as you are. The monther just left it alone. He's at this stage of experimenting etc. if I were you I would relax and monitor. Don't make him feel bad that he's masturbating etc.

Leela - posted on 01/05/2014

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Hi Martha, masturbation is completely normal at that age. At least you don't have to worry about stds or pregnancy. He may like the softness of the slippers - I don't think this is tied to you sexually in any way. I know you aren't comfortable and it's gotta be difficult, but just think so what if he has a foot fetish? He's not drinking, smoking, doing drugs - you get my drift.Talk to an experienced therapist if you can

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I think drawing it out into a long talk will make the situation for awkward. Upfront at the beginning can be hard but atleast it will be done quicker for both of you. You could just tell him flat out what you found and just go from there. Good luck.

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no I haven't. I honestly can't understand why he would do that. It's just so gross on so many levels. I bet it's awkward to talk about now but you're going to have to tell him what wrong with it. Like if he wants to use his own sock fine but there are so many different levels of wrong with using his moms slipper.

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