Spanking a very disobedient 3 year old ....... I have tried the corner it does not fase him

MaeLynn - posted on 04/09/2013 ( 11 moms have responded )

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I have tried the corner it does not fase him. He is now starting to hit kids at school and i know its our fault. He is learning from us. He tests me to the limit if i say no he looks at me and does it anyways. I need help i am losing it with him and it seems like the only way to get him to obey is to yell at the top of my lungs and spank his butt. I feel horrible afterwards and dont know what to do.....any advice mommy's out there on trying to keep calm and have patience and discipline my son ????

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/10/2013

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Hitting out of anger is NEVER the solution. And quite frankly, you can have your house one of two ways. Clean up when you can, and spend time with your son, and worry about the mess after bed, or try to keep the house clean all day long and drive yourself mad...and ignore your child so everything can be neat. It is not a priority to keep the house pristine. In fact it is almost impossible when you have kids unless you have hired help. You have got to relax.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/10/2013

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Yeah, spanking just teachings him to hit. Yelling just teaches him to yell. It sounds like you need to actually physically go to him when he is doing something he shouldn't, and tell him no. Give a short reason why like "dangerous" or whatever, and tell him the consequence. 3 minutes in time out. Also if he is doing something he shouldn't he may be doing it for attention. Make sure you are spending quality time with him, playing with him, reading, going for walks etc. A lot of times kids are just trying to get ANY attention from their parents. Another way to deal with this situation without hitting, if he is doing something he shouldn't be doing, tell him no, why, bla bla bla, and distract him with something different that you can do together. This has helped me countless times.

Jodi - posted on 04/10/2013

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I'd try to ignore the tantrums and only give him attention again once he has calmed down.

With regard to the bed wetting at night, at this age, this is perfectly normal. Many children are still wet at night until they are 5 or 6. Just keep him in either pull-ups or diapers when he sleeps or naps until he is ready. You will be able to see when he is ready if he is dry most of the time after his sleep/nap. Certainly don't get upset at him about it.

Dove - posted on 04/09/2013

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Maybe some counseling and/or parenting classes/books can give you some tips. Giving yourself a time out before dealing with the situation at hand can help you stay a little calmer.

I am not completely anti-spanking, but if you are doing it because you are at the end of your rope and you feel horrible about it afterwards.... it may be because it is not the right way for you to handle the situation.

What specifically are you having trouble with? That may help people to give you more case specific advise.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/10/2013

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I would google moms groups in your area. That would probably be your best bet.

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MaeLynn - posted on 04/10/2013

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Thanks for your response i am in Peru so im not in reach of a pond beach or library I wish there were more things for him n i to do. Dont know anyone here so he gets tired of the same old park and coloring routines. Any ideas of indoor activities or way to maybe meet some new moms so he can interact ??

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/10/2013

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Exercise. Seriously, go for a walk with him. Enjoy nature. Get out of the house. Bring him to the library. Often they have story time. have him interact with other children. Go to the park. If you are near the beach or pond, go there. It sounds like you may be spending to much time indoors. Go outside, and just paint. Whatever. Distract yourself also. Not just him.

MaeLynn - posted on 04/10/2013

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Thank you all so very much for your responses I am grateful for all of your feed back and you all have very wonderful answers. I just would love to know now how to keep calm in stressful situations and not lash out. I see a mini angry person in him and i know he is getting it from me. Counting to ten doesnt seem to work so much for me anymore ??? What are some ways i can keep relax and stay calm ???

MaeLynn - posted on 04/10/2013

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Thank you so much for your response just wasnt sure if it was normal him taking 2 steps back after all this time he has been fine he hasnt wet the bed once in months and now all of a sudden its becoming an every nap time night time thing .... He still drinks milks before bed and before it wasnt an issue but do u think i should stop it ?

Dove - posted on 04/09/2013

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Can't you just ignore the tantrum? If he won't get up... simply pick him up and carry him to his bed and he can stay there until he is calm.

MaeLynn - posted on 04/09/2013

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I am a neat freak and do my best to stay calm. I was in a military school so everything was very neat and in order. I try my best to understand that children can be messy but sometime my child likes to make messes and then refuses to help me clean them up and throws horrible temper tantrums. He will toss himself on the floor as im holding him and it gets me so angry telling him time and time again to get up . I spank him and then he gets worse and now he is starting to hit in return. He is starting to have the same anger as me and that worries me. I have no patience once so ever at time and needs tips so help keep calm. I feel the times i do have patience i bottle it in and then take it out when he is being bad later on. As you replied in my last post bed wetting is becoming an issue. We got him fully potty trained in a week and now 5-6 months later he is wetting the bed at night at nap time and sometimes again in the morning right when its time to wake up. He doesnt sleep wet anymore like he used to now he tells me he is wet once he does it. I get so frustrated because im washing sheets 3x a day just for them to get wet again. I am worried putting him back in diapers will get him used to it and then it will be potty training one on one all over again. He asks to go all day long no issues but at night its another thing. How can i control my anger and handle these problems properly ??? Please help

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