Spanking boys and girls

Sheila - posted on 07/04/2014 ( 29 moms have responded )

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I only have daughters but I was speaking to a mother a little while ago and she said she smacks her son's bare bottom when he is naughty and her husband smacks her daughters bare bottom.
My daughters have taken bare bottom spankings from their father when I have not been available but that is because they opted for it.
They were given the option of waiting for me or my sister would have come around and carry out the punishment.
I tend to think that children should be given the option of taking their punishment from the parent or a relative of the same gender particularly bare bottom punishments but if they want the parent of the opposite gender to do it that is ok.
I am wondering if other Moms agree

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Guest - posted on 09/12/2014

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Wow..."Spanking with a hand or hairbrush on the bare bottom is the only way to discipline...."
Narrow minded much?
Try picking up a book one day....the non-fictional variety.
EDIT! (and actually read the book, don't use it to beat your poor kid into submission).

Caseyjohn - posted on 03/14/2015

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HI Sheila,
I can't agree with you, i have two kids boy 13 and girl 11, i spank both of them only on their bare bottoms, like father mother too has equal rights and responsibilties towards their children.i don't find any thing wrong in spanking my son.

Laura - posted on 03/01/2015

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I was spanked bare bottom by my stepfather and I have a seven year old stepson who I spank bare bottom as well. My husband is usually in the bedroom too unlike my mom who knew I needed punished but couldn't watch. My stepfather always had me lay on my stomach before pulling my panties down as I do my stepson.

Ev - posted on 03/14/2015

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I agree to swats on the bottom with the use of my fingers but when they are at an age they can understand what the parents tell them it is time to stop even especially the bare bottom kind of spankings. Here is why:

1) Kids do not always take it seriously when they are older.
2) Bare bottom spankings can be considered child abuse where you live if you do not already know for sure. Call family services and find out.
3) Bare bottom spankings can cause injury, bruises, and marks. It can have a life long psychological/emotional affect on a child that is spanked like this.
4) Bare bottom spankings are above and beyond what is needed.
5) You can loose your kids if someone knew and turned you in.

I was not spanked as a child and I am sure I needed it a lot more than I did get. I can remember one time my mom did get me and I was a lot older but I needed it. She was never one to do this for reasons from childhood and none I know about to this day. She said she had witnessed a lot of stuff and decided she could not spank us kids because of it. As for my dad, I am sure he would have not had any second though to it but then when dad spoke, we listened good.

This days' generations laugh when parents say they are going to spank. And there are a lot of parents that also allow their kids to have fits and then give in to get them to stop the fits. I think parents anymore need to have some parenting classes.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/11/2014

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Actually, Jan, you've been told as well, if you were in my area, you would be considered an abuser.

You advocate using implements on bare skin, which is defined as child abuse.

Spanking is a pop or two to get a small child's attention, it is not beating with your hand or hairbrush on a bare ass for a child who's cognitive skills have developed, and you can handle discipline in a more adult manner.

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[momoftwo] - posted on 03/14/2015

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No, parents just resort to spanking because they feel they don't have time to "deal" with the situation the way it should be dealt with. Especially growing up in an abusive home I don't believe in spanking one bit. It's wreaked havoc on my self-esteem and it'll do the same to your children.

Laura Meridith, you need to seek help. I'm pretty concerned.

Samantha - posted on 03/07/2015

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I've met many adults who don't believe spanking is proper. I happen too. I won't fault another adult for not spsnking.

Laura - posted on 03/01/2015

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I have three daughters my husband and I both bare bottom spank with a belt and a seven year old stepson we both hand spank otk.

Laura - posted on 03/01/2015

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I make the kids lay on the bed in there panties and then take them down..Do any of you make them go without pants for a while tergores?

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/23/2015

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Oh, look, it's Sheila Jane, and Jan Ipjima...Two of the abusing-est mothers here.

both are trolls, both are inciteful...which is irritating.

Michelle - posted on 09/17/2014

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****Mod warning******
If you can't have a debate about a topic without starting on each other then I will close this thread.

Michelle,
WtCoM Mod.

Dove - posted on 09/15/2014

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Ew... Ellen Sharp, don't mark my posts. You're creeping me out... and marking posts as funny that AREN'T meant to be funny violates THUMPS and can get you banned... On second thought... mark away, we need less of your kind on this board anyway.

Dove - posted on 09/12/2014

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Could all you disgusting child abusers please go and find somewhere else to post about how you have no problem sexually assaulting your children?... Either that or post your full names and addresses so we know where to send CPS once we copy and paste your responses from here.....

Michaela - posted on 09/08/2014

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I support you Sheila. I think that both parents should share responsibility for spankings both for boys and girls. It's good that they can chose which parent should discipline them. My husband spank our girls too!

Michaela - posted on 09/08/2014

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I support you Sheila. A bare bottom spanking from either parent is okey both for boys and girls. Both my husband and I spank our girls, though I do it most frequently.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/15/2014

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Sheila Jane, you don't spank your daughters, you assault your adult children. Get it straight. You've admitted it in other posts.

And, as in the other responses to your posts regarding bare-assed spankings, you've been told that they are abuse, especially in the way that you administer them.

Your method now extends beyond abuse to assault. You need to find a different method to get your point across to your kids rather than forcing them to submit to assault. You do realize that by having them remove their garments, you could actually be considered for sexual assault as well, correct?

No, other moms don't necessarily agree with your method of abuse and assault.

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An interesting subject, Sheila. Being as I'm a single parent, my son has no choice in who spanks him. But I tend to think that boys are better off being spanked by their mothers. After all, it was Mom who likely taught her son to dress himself. And now, here she is, pulling down his pants for a bare bottom spanking. The shame he feels is unique to that particular parent-child relationship.
I've got a male cousin who was spanked by his mother into his teens. These were classic over-the-knee, pants-down bottom warmings on the side of his bed. And he credits my aunt with focusing his attention on self-improvement. He was emotionally closer to his mother than his dad, and he always regretted disappointing her to the point where she felt it necessary to spank him.
I have no problem at all with opposite-gender, bare bottom spankings for children, even into their teens. If the element of shame is more keenly felt by the naughty girl or boy, so much the better. But again, I would argue that mothers just naturally make the best spankers.

Dove - posted on 07/04/2014

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I'm not completely opposed to spanking, but the only time I would EVER spank a bare bottom is if it were from a toddler that was already naked. Making a child pull down their pants to spank them is disgusting. My ex did that to our girls a few times and I wanted to strangle him for it. Spanking is bad enough... stop degrading your children on every level.

Gena - posted on 07/04/2014

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I dont agree with it at all..it is abuse. Teaching your kids that spanking, wich is violent is ok as a form of punishment is not good.They will grow up to think its ok to punish with violence!! And just to mention,in some countries if you spank a child they can punish THE ADULT for abuse. And i once saw a documentry where the father spanked the small son,they took his son away from their home. There are so many other ways to teach a child to be respectful.From the begining you should teach your child manners and that they have to obey when mom and dad say something. You can punish your children with time outs,no tv time for a day or two,depending on the age of the child. When my son is naughty and misbehaves,doesnt happen alot and i am not saying my child is an angel, he must go to his room and think about what he did.He comes and says sorry afterwards and i also explain to him why he had to go to his room. Thats a much better solution then to spank my child. Always explain why your daughter is being punished like time out,no tv etc. Its much better then to spank a child!
Start trying by calmly telling your daughter what she had done was wrong,and as punishment she will get time out.
Hope my post helps you to find another way of punishment that isnt abuse! Good luck

Ev - posted on 07/04/2014

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I totally disagree. Bare Bottom spankings are considered abuse where I live. If it is found out there is the chance you can loose your kids. There is also the chance to injure the child with those types of spankings. I am sure those that leave the clothing on the child could do as much harm. Some parents take spanking too far and inflict pain when they do this. Some use brushes, handles of spoons or other types of things to do the spanking and that leaves bruises. If those bruises are seen then you are looking for trouble.

Amy - posted on 07/04/2014

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I don't spank my children so I don't agree with using it as a form of punishment. There are better ways that work for me and my kids.

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