Spanking mom

Essie - posted on 09/28/2016 ( 22 moms have responded )

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Hi all
I am essie mom to a 2 girls 11 and 6 I am a strict mom I am pro spanking them they most of the time well behave girls but they can push they limit with the paddle for 6 yrs and for the 11 yr belt or paddle depend on her bad behavior love to make new friend and exchange discipline Idea

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/29/2016

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Stacey rains, our posts are not funny. Neither are yours, but there is no button for deplorable, nor for disgusting, nor for hideous. You, Stacey are nothing better than a bully. You cannot effectively communicate with your children, so you will go to extremes to abuse and assault them.

Just remember, karma is a bitch.

Jodi - posted on 09/28/2016

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Ugh....more child abusers. If you have to use canes and switches, you are parenting wrong.

Essie - posted on 09/28/2016

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You guys are right I only use spanking 20 % or 10 % I use early bedtime , taking away a fun weekend ( like staying at home all weekend) I use extra chores or taking away their favorite thing is going out for breakfast every sunday and they usually respond to that kind of punishment right away I use more spanking like hurting someone or very bad lies or very bad offences

Michelle - posted on 09/28/2016

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No, hitting another human being is assault, if you hit an adult they could have you charged, even if you don't leave a mark. Why are children any different? Our children can't defend themselves and it's our job to protect them, not assault them.
Do you allow your children to hit other children? I doubt you do.
Why is it okay for you to hit them but they can't hit others?

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Ev - posted on 10/02/2016

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"Spare the rod, spoil the child" taken and used directly like it was in centuries and decades gone by has come to a point in this world where it does not work anymore. It is best to try other avenues to "spare the rod, spoil the child". Spanking does not ever really get a child's attention. My son at the age of 13 or 14 was telling his dad to his dad's face that spanking him in the way that was being done did nothing to teach him a lesson....he laughed about it. Yet when I punished him it was usually the warning once he would loose that video game machine that did it. I once had to take the internet away from him for several months at one time for things he did online and went to online that I did not agree with behind my back. Needless to say he learned his lesson after that. It is not the point of what he did or where he went (not that serious) but it was things I did not deem appropriate for his age at that time frame. Now he is an adult he is free to go to those places because he understands why he needed to be an adult rather than a kid going on them.

Sarah - posted on 09/30/2016

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To strike another human, anywhere on their body is an offense against God. He created us to care for ourselves and each other. (you can skip the spare the rod..argument, because I promise i have you beat).
Stop hitting your kids. End of story. I do not need to go on and on about the damage you are causing. You already know and shame on you for backing any of the pro-spank posts.
You are not is the pro-spank community so I can say the truth; stop torturing your child!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/29/2016

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If your children are 11 and 6, and the only tools you have in your parenting toolbox are those that involve assault and abuse (yep, implement equals abuse), then you need to work on your communication skills.

I spanked until my kids were old enough to understand English. Around 3 or 4. After that I found better, more effective, non physical punishments.

Dove - posted on 09/29/2016

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Stacey Rains is one of the few posters that condones the post on the pro-spanking page where some sick freak is whipping her teen sons on the penis when they get an erection. Even most of the women on that board are horrified by that one, so take it for what it's worth...

Dove - posted on 09/29/2016

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Don't you just love that, Jodi? When people that assault children think that not assaulting a child is funny... Just speaks volumes about said person's mental limitations.

Stacey - posted on 09/28/2016

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Have you ever tried the cane? It's very effective and requires much less effort than the paddle or belt. We use it with much success. Highly recommended.

Also highly effective is a simple switch cut from a tree. I trust you will find these changes will improve the behavior in your home.

Jodi - posted on 09/28/2016

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So....you do realise spanking IS physically hurting, them right? Now please, by all means, explain to me how hitting them is demonstrating it isn't okay to hurt others....because you don't punish a child for hurting others by doing exactly the same to them. I don't know about others around here, but I have taught my children it is NEVER okay to hit or be physically violent toward another person....the best teacher is modelling that behaviour. Clearly, if you hit your children, you can't model that behaviour to them. And you SHOULD be modelling to them that hurting others is not ok.

Also, consider spontaneous rewards for just being great kids. That works too. If they go a few days without you having to reprimand them at all, why not just surprise them with a movie night or an ice cream, or something fun?

Michelle - posted on 09/28/2016

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But you ARE hurting them.
You need to find their currency, for example technology, spending time with friends, going out on the weekends.
With my older 2 (15 and 12.5) technology is their currency. They know that if they don't do what we ask we will ban technology. If they still don't listen is is taken away for longer and they are grounded. I have never had to do much more than that.
With my daughter I just have to say she won't be able to perform in her dance competitions and she behaves.
Every child has something they love to do or use, taking that away gives them time to reflect on their behaviour and learn to correct it instead of something that lasts a few seconds and is then forgotten.
Like I said, if you are spanking after 6 then it's not working. As humans we are able to learn and evolve, we do that with parenting. If something isn't working then we have the brain power to actually try something else.

Dove - posted on 09/28/2016

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Using an object makes it assault. Hitting a preteen is crossing another line. IF spanking is used... it's your bare hand on your child's fully clothed bottom one, MAYBE two swats... and not on a child older than 7/8 at the most.

I have an extremely challenging son w/ some behavior issues (thankfully only at home) and I used to spank him.. at least 50% of our behavior issues ended when I QUIT spanking him.

If you really love your kids... quit hitting them w/ objects. Seek to understand why they are misbehaving when it occurs, attempt ways to head off the misbehavior before it occurs, and implement consequences that make sense in regards to the 'crimes' committed (example... if my son is trying to stay on the Kindle when he is supposed to be getting ready for bed... he doesn't get to use the Kindle the next day).

Jodi - posted on 09/28/2016

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If you are hitting them with implements, you are abusing them. Sorry, but you are. Try different ways of disciplining your children that don't involve physical assault.

Definition of bully: a person who uses strength or influence to harm or intimidate those who are weaker.

Violence is the answer of the unintelligent person who has no other means with which to manage a situation.

You can do better than that......

Essie - posted on 09/28/2016

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I love them so much I will Never EVER ABUSE THEM red marks and welts are abuse and I never ever mark or leave a marks on my 11 yrs

Michelle - posted on 09/28/2016

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So you shower them in hugs because you feel guilty about hurting them, that doesn't make sense.
I have 3 children and they are well behaved children that respect me as their Mother. Even my 15yo knows that I make the decisions. Guess what, I don't spank them at all.
If you want validation for the abuse towards your children then you will find that in the pro spanking communities. Most of the members here see spanking, especially with a belt/paddle, as abuse. Where I am the law even sees it as abuse.

Essie - posted on 09/28/2016

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there is a line between spanking and abuse I only spank them when I try other methods and nothing works and I don;t leave marks or welts I just spank them to let them know i am their mom and to respect me and to let them know if they break a rule they are consequences for their action and they know I love them after the spanking or do something fun to make sure I still love them and I also make sure they go to bed feeling loved not abuse

Michelle - posted on 09/28/2016

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If you are still having to spank an 11yo then maybe spanking isn't working. Maybe you should find another form of discipline that isn't abuse.
You should NEVER use a paddle or belt on any child. That is assault and abuse.

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