spanking my 11 year old daughter and her friend in public

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Michelle - posted on 07/02/2016

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I agree Jodi, she seems to dwell on their "small bottoms" a bit too much.
It's actually bordering on sexual abuse and is a bit creepy.

I would be finding a different punishment since spanking doesn't seem to work. Usually with a punishment the child learns not to do something, they don't keep doing it.

Jodi - posted on 07/02/2016

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I'm calling troll.

And I will just add......if both girls misbehave and disobey often, maybe you should stop spanking anyway because it clearly isn't working. My 11 year old hardly ever misbehaves or disobeys and she is never spanked. Go figure that one out. Oh, that's right! Other forms of discipline work better!

Sarah - posted on 07/02/2016

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I have four kids aged 12, 14, 17 and 19; when they were tots, they may have gotten one swat on a diapered bottom for running into the street or something dangerous that I felt I needed to get their attention. Since age 3, none of my kids were spanked. Ever. If anyone ever laid a hand on my child, I too would call the police.
The thing I cannot wrap my head around is how the pro-spankers go on and on about how great spanking works to fix disobedience! If it is so great, then why do you have to spank, spank and spank some more. Maybe it fixes the behavior in the short term, while their poor bottom are still burning, but if it really taught a lesson, you would not have to repeat the process.
The position that spanking the only, or the best way to discipline a child is a load of crap. I have the proof living in my house!

Michelle - posted on 07/02/2016

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I agree with Dove, you have NO RIGHT to abuse someone else's child!
Spanking at that age doesn't work at all, it's abuse. A punishment that would work a lot better would be taking away their technology or grounding them. You probably should have gone straight home instead of staying and doing more shopping. Did you buy them anything while shopping later? If so then you really need to learn how to parent.

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Dove - posted on 07/02/2016

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Until I learned better... yes, on rare occasion. Then I learned better and started parenting and the 'need' to spank disappeared because the behaviors and relationships improved drastically once I realized how stupid it is to assault a child.

Dove - posted on 07/02/2016

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Go post your sick freak bragging on the pro-spanking page if you don't want to hear how horrible of a choice it is to assault preteens.

I HAVE two teenagers... haven't been spanked in a very, very, very long time... guess what? They don't misbehave because we have a relationship based on mutual respect instead of assault.

If they 'misbehave often' it is because their parents are NOT handling the misbehavior appropriately. Yes, all kids misbehave at times... because they are kids and they are humans, but children/preteens/teenagers that are dealt w/ appropriately and do not have extentuating circumstances (like a mental/emotional disability) do NOT misbehave 'often' by the time they are the age of your daughter.

Dove - posted on 07/01/2016

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If you ever laid your hand on my child you'd find yourself in jail for assault. 11 and 9 are both too old to spank... learn how to parent... and if the other girl's parents do not know that you assault their child... you need to tell them, so they can choose to keep her far, far, far away from you... and if they approve of you assaulting their child... I hope they learn how to parent soon too.

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