Diane - posted on 04/13/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )
I'm very lucky that I have a good relationship with my ex husband. Our son is 4. We moved to a split schedule so he can see both of us. We live close enough it's doable. However now my ex has a new job that's much further away. His fiancé picks my son up from daycare on their days. I was really justifying having my son less in order for him to spend time with his dad. But now I feel like I'm giving up precious time at this special age to a stranger. I'm glad that he found someone that has an interest in my son and treats him well. They've only been together barely a year (starting right after our split) and now they are getting married. I'm really struggling with why it's "right" for me to give up time with my son if he's not spending the majority of it with his dad. I respect stepmothers tremendously. At the same time shouldn't I have consideration being his mom?
I'm trying but I feel like we are doing split custody just because it's supposedly fair and it doesn't seem fair at all. Any help to try and help my mindset would be appreciated.