Andrea - posted on 02/04/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )
I live in Colorado. My daughter is 3. I split from her father when she was 6 months old. He lives over an hour away, I moved home. We have since then gone through the court process. Child support was court ordered just over a year ago - hasn't been in place for a full year yet, and parenting time is set. He gets her for pretty much every weekend, while I have her weekdays. I do get every 2nd weekend and the 5th (if there is one).
My dilemma. He had his new gf move in last summer after only knowing her a few months. She was pregnant about a month or two after. She seems great - this really isn't an issue with her. However, due to the new baby, my ex is demanding a lowered child support. There are other factors which we are asking for clarification from the Judge to help resolve this issue. The problem is, now that I didn't just roll over and agree to his lowered child support demand and that we are going to court to see the Judge, he is refusing to be flexible and switch weekends so that I can take our daughter on a family trip for a wedding that is out of state. I honestly don't know when I'll have the opportunity to take her to Chicago again as this is not a regular destination for me.
His reasoning for not allowing the switch - "you aren't working with me."
He's talking about the child support issue.
I know it's his weekend, but I offered up the 5th weekend (which is mine and directly following the weekend in question). I'm not trying to steal or deny him any visitation time. I'm positive that he is just doing this to be spiteful.
His life motto: Don't get mad, get even.