Spitting - 4 year old girl

Lynne - posted on 02/04/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My granddaughter is 4 year old with probable aspergers syndrome. My daughters partner thinks that by putting mustard or soap in her mouth will deter her from spitting. I disagree and think there must be a kinder way to do things. Yes she needs to learn but I don't know enough about aspergers to offer my daughter real advise. I just know that bullying is not right. Please help as this needs help urgently. Thank you

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Lynne - posted on 02/05/2014

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Thank you Shawn I think that redirecting is the answer so hopefully my daughters partner will go with that. My daughter was/is ADHD although she has grown out of most of it but she knows only too well that treating her bad behaviour
with control and kindness has to be the only way. Thank you for responding.

Lynne - posted on 02/05/2014

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Thank you for taking the time to reply to this. My granddaughter is being checked
out but it is a slow process and in the meantime we do as much as we can to find out about aspergers. I will show your reply to my daughter because I know that she agrees with me in this and I am sure that her partner will listen to all advice.
Thank you.

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NO NO NO! Horrible idea! I'm sorry, but your daughter's partner is very ignorant, and what's more, he's picking on someone with a possible disability! If I was your daughter and that was my child, I can tell you right now the gloves would come out!! Quirks like spitting are very common for conditions like Asperger's. Yes, your granddaughter does need to learn that it is not acceptable, but there is a right way to go about it. Usually redirection or completely ignoring it is most effective. Most importantly here, your daughter first and foremost needs to immediately seek a formal evaluation (if she's not already in the process) and then get started on proper treatment for whatever the diagnosis is. But knowing the official diagnosis is the key factor for everyone in the family to start educating yourselves on how to address this sort of behavior, as well as to tailoring discipline overall to this child's special needs.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/04/2014

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Oh, yeah, I always try to deter spitting by applying something that THEY'LL WANT TO SPIT OUT...

Sounds like your daughter's partner isn't that bright...

Consistant, and constant redirection. All the time, EVERY time. Works wonders. Even with aspberger's kids. Actually, the routine of the redirection is an excellent tool with Aspberger's kids...

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