Split Families

Sarah - posted on 04/06/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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How do I handle the way my daughter acts the first 2 days she gets back from Dads house? He manipulates her against me the entire time they're together :( Apparently this week I caused her earrings to get infected.

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Sarah - posted on 04/08/2012

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Thanks Michelle! I try so hard to not let my emotions show I feel she knows me way to well though. I would never say anything bad about her father to her or in front of her.

She knows we just started to not get along. We used to sit next to each other at games (his family & mine) and now we don't say a word to each other. It's so sad. Thanks a lot for your post. This is so new to me and everyone says it's going to get worse.

Michelle - posted on 04/07/2012

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First thing is not to stoop to his level. Don't say negative things about him. I know it's hard but she will respect you a lot more in years to come.



When she says these things try not to react, if you feel it does need a reaction sit down with her and talk about. Try not to get emotional or upset but ask her why she thinks that.



My boys come back from their Dad's place and tell me some interesting things but we sit down and discuss it. They are old enough to know what my views on things are and they even say that some things I wouldn't allow here. It's hard not to say things but it's not fair to put the children in the middle. He's doing more damage to the relationship by saying those things to her. My Mother was like that and my Dad never said a bad word about her. When I grew up and moved out of home I looked back and had so much respect for Dad because he didn't say a word.



Also if he finds out that what he's saying to her isn't getting a reaction from you then he may just give it up. Like a toddler having a tantrum, ignore it and they get bored.

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