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Kelly - posted on 06/05/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My ex-husband is trying to force my daughter to play soccer and she does not want to play. Most games are on my custodial time. Its stressful for me and my daughter. Anyone know law in PA on this issue? HELP ME PLEASE

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Sarah - posted on 06/05/2016

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What sort of league plays Sept thru June? If soccer is not a passion, then anything more than a 8 week fall league and 8 week spring league would be a drag. If you have to, contact a lawyer for advice, but if your daughter really does not want to play, she should not have too.

Sarah - posted on 06/05/2016

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I have never met a soccer team, except HS or club level (which an inexperienced 9 yo would never make that team) that practices 4 times a week. You don't have to take her on your weekends so that solves half of the games. No coach wants a player who shows half the time. Have your child talk to her dad.

Kelly - posted on 06/05/2016

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She has grown to hate soccer now. She didn't mind it in fall but now is forced to do every weekend Sept 1 thru end of June. He drags her from under bed when at his house and I feel that's abuse. I expect her to do well in school and be kind and find something she likes to play or do.
Her dad verbally abuses me beyond what anyone should endure. I need the law to help me.

Kelly - posted on 06/05/2016

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Thanks for your response. She doesn't want to play every weekend and does not want to play soccer. She's underweight and very active. He forces her to do soccer 4 days a week and she is told she has no say. It is aweful. Her dad treated me disrespectful and now his daughter

Sarah - posted on 06/05/2016

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While I don't agree in forcing a 9yo into an activity she doesn't want to do, is there a valid reason for him pushing her? Does she get enough exercise, does she have any other activities? Soccer is an easy game to learn and it is fun. At 9 I presume he is pushing her into a park and rec program, which is cheap, practice is usually one time a week and games are less than an hour. All of my kid have played it and two of the four love it and stuck with it and two moved on to other sports.
If you feel really strongly about her not playing, then don't take her to her games. One season isn't going to hurt her and maybe she will like it. Why doesn't she want to play? If she afraid?

Ev - posted on 06/05/2016

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I do not think that there are particular laws on a parent having a child play a sports. You need to sit down and talk to him about this and work it out.

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