Started CIO but baby wakes up afiter 30 min each time

Amanda - posted on 06/06/2014 ( 19 moms have responded )

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I want to start with if you do not believe in CIO please do no make a comment. My son is 4.5 months old, started CIO method because I have tried everything else. He bed shares and nurses to sleep. I am trying to stop this. I know it is natural but i am very small it is starting to kill my back, to the point i wake up crying, can not bed share. My problem is he is waking only after 30 min after he falls asleep, what can i do to keep him asleep? Do i continue to have him cry again??

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Guest - posted on 06/10/2014

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Amanda, the first sleep cycle should be closer to 60 minutes in infants, possibly 90 minutes. If he is waking after 30 minutes, he is not getting a complete cycle. That will cause a release of neurotransmitters in his brain that will actually help KEEP him awake and make sleep even more difficult. This is a left over defense mechanism to help humans stay awake when it was unsafe to sleep. Obviously, we do not need it anymore, but we haven't completely evolved beyond it physiologically yet.

Your son sleep for a shorter cycle when you let him CIO because he is too young and does not feel safe enough to fall asleep.
For now, allow him to nurse to sleep, then gently place him in the crib beside your bed. He should sleep longer and longer, and gradually the need to nurse to sleep will go away on it's own. You don't have to actually do anything about it.
After about a month or so of having him sleep right by your bed, in the crib, his sleep cycle should be regular, and you can move the crib about 3 feet from the bed. This will cause a disruption in his sleep--he will probably start waking up more frequently, but just nurse him back to sleep and put him back in the crib. Once his sleep pattern re-regulates itself (should take about a week or two), you can move the crib a few more feet from the bed. Again, once the sleep cycle is regular again after about a week or two, move the bed a few more feet. Repeat the process until the crib is out of your room and in the baby's room.

A rocker might help with your back. When my son was little, I put a comfortable rocker beside his crib for night nursing. It seems that would be much easier on the back than trying to nurse propped up against a hard headboard.

Samantha - posted on 06/10/2014

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My doctor always told me that the CIO method can be good for a child to strengthen their lungs. I started CIO when my daughter was 5mo. and she is 18 almost 19mo. now. it took about halfway through her sixth month before it worked. Just stick with it. Its heartbreaking sometimes to hear them cry but it will help them learn to fall asleep by themselves. My daughter knows when it's 9:00pm its time for bed and will go up to her room and fall asleep.

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Dixiana - posted on 06/12/2014

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My 6 month old baby has little heat bumps under his chin n cheecks for the past 4 days it's been getting. Worst can this be allergy from food? If so what should I do go see his doctor right away?

Tanya - posted on 06/10/2014

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I just want to say I agree with the guest. If it feels wrong to allow your children to CIO it's because it is wrong.

He's still so tiny... If you only plan on having 1 child just tough it out...He can possibly be a high touch baby. My friends son was like that for months...her husband, his family and herself rotated shifts for him to sleep.

This is just my opinion though...I'm not judging anyone who allows their children to CIO.

Do what's right for you!

Amanda - posted on 06/10/2014

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Every time I place him in the crib he wakes up.
And he is waking about 10 times a night even when he is beside me.

Jana - posted on 06/10/2014

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if you think there is a problem listen to your instincts. If he is having trouble staying asleep it could be something else. Such as acid reflux or something else. when he sleeps with you is he staying asleep or are you having to constantly sooth him back to sleep. or does he stay asleep. If you feel like he is healthy let him cio after the 30 minutes he will eventually learn the routine and know what he is supposed to do.

Samantha - posted on 06/10/2014

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My daughter did the same thing and her doctor told me just go in the room and reassure him you're still there by rubbing his stomach or head without picking him up, and he'll get it eventually. I know it's hard. I cried some nights hearing my daughter cry, but now she sleeps through the night and sometimes 12hrs straight.

Amanda - posted on 06/10/2014

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Should I make him cry every time he wakes up?? Cause he wakes like every 30 min cause I am not there...

Tanya - posted on 06/09/2014

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Crying it out. Letting the baby cry themselves to sleep. Some people consider it soothing themselves.

Amanda - posted on 06/08/2014

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I have been doing a night routine since he was 2.5 months same thing every night. Bath, massage, story, feeding bed. When I did CIO. I fed before bath. My biggest issue is he wakes just after the first sleep cycle. Once my husband went in and got him to go back to sleep no crying. But woke again 30 min later.

Jana - posted on 06/08/2014

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I let my daughter cry it out. It was the hardest thing I have ever done. She was 8 months but I think if you do it younger it would work better. It took three nights of crying to sleep for about 15 to 20 minutes but by the third night it was just a whimper and out for the night. Now she goes to bed at bed time because that is what she is used to. You just need a bed time and a nighty nite routine. That way he knows what is coming and he will start to mentally prepare for bed. Good luck. Letting them cry isn't hurting them. And it will not last forever.

Danicia - posted on 06/06/2014

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with my babies I worked with them on their day naps to CIO and learn to self sooth in their beds (at 2 months old). the transition to bedtime was much easier once they got used to sleeping in their own bed during the day. it was easier on me also b/c I was fully awake. my recommendation would be to work on naps in his bed, then progress to bedtime once he's taking good naps. Wish you the best!

Tanya - posted on 06/06/2014

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I'm against CIO.

However, I know how hard it is for your back...mine was killing too...I just got lucky I put my daughter in her bassinet and kept my hand on her at night, she woke up for feeds and when she cried I held her...I was tired but my back was much much better. But I never let her cry, This will pass I swear, it seems like it will never end but it will.

I think your son just wants to be close to you to feel safe...my daughter wanted the same and got a heat rash from our body heat.

He needs to sleep 3 hours after his last nap.

Good luck!

Amanda - posted on 06/06/2014

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Thanks me too. We ended the cio after he wasn't staying asleep as well. I was OK with the beginning of the night, Cause I am lucky and he cried only 10 min, but i could not make him vry every time he wakes. Also we are getting a new bed within a week or so. I will just have to be tough and keep trying. I know it will pass soon :)

Dove - posted on 06/06/2014

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♥ I'm sorry. My son spent the first 5 months of his life sleeping ON me while I was propped upright in the middle of the bed. He had reflux and it was the only way we could both get some sleep. I hope you can figure out something that works for both of you.

Amanda - posted on 06/06/2014

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His crib is right next to my bed so I could start doing that. I have been trying for over a month over and over again. It is not working. He just wakes up 30 min later. Like I said I can't bed share any more. I am waking up crying every morning in pain. I am on the brisk of a total melt down.

Dove - posted on 06/06/2014

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4.5 months is WAY too young to CIO. Bare minimum for that is 6 months and even under a year isn't really good. Why don't you put him in a crib or co sleeper NEXT to your bed instead of in your bed? That might help you a little. Other than that... nursing to sleep is 100% normal at his age. You can try putting him to bed drowsy, but awake and see how that goes.. but leaving him to cry is not a good option.

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