Leevee - posted on 05/11/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )
I want to separate from my husband and am now trying to figure out what to do. I am so done with being emotionally and verbally abused, I can't stand being in this relationship a second longer. I have been with him for 7 years and married 3. i never imagined our life together like this. He puts me down, belittles me, mocks me, calls me names, intimidates me, and threatens me if I say I am going to leave. Whenever i try to defend myself and ask him to respect me he ends up denying that he acts that way and tells me he loves me and saying he never means to hurt me. I don't understand how he can say such hurtful things to me and not realize its hurting me. i feel like my self esteem and self worth have plummeted since being in this relationship as our trust, respect and communication are poorly lacking. We have two beautiful children aged 3 years and 10 months. I dont want them growing up in a home like this. he is also very critical and hard on my son. his tone of voice is so mean and negative towards him. he threatens my son all the time "if you dont do this, then this will happen or you will get this taken away." i have talked to him about this numerous times and nothing changes. he refuses to go to counselling or respect me. about school.... I have my BA degree already but would like to go into the Social Work field. I have started at looking into different college and university options. Any advice whether college or university would be better? I know what going to university is like but have no college experience. How am I going to make it work to balance being a mom while going to school? How am I going to be able to afford it? I truly want to make a better life for myself and my children. I have heard that a lot of social work jobs require shift work and that I could be working nights. How am I supposed to do that with two children who need me at night? There has got to be jobs that are just during the day? I really need some support from other mothers who have gone through similar situations. Thanks very much!!