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This is a hard one for me to admit because I have two step-children whom I love dearly....one who lives with us and is being raised as my own (his mother is deceased) and another who lives with his mother (she is awful). Because of the long list of issues we have had with his mom including parental alienation, harassment, threats, stalking, etc....and the fact that she has poisoned my step-child against us by making up horrible lies about both me and my husband, I have gotten to the point where I realized I kind of prefer when she interferes with visitation now. Don't misunderstand, I love him and know how important it is for him to spend time with us, especially his dad and brother. But after 5 years of this nonsense, it's just easier to allow her to make up excuses as to why he can't visit. When she did it this weekend by telling him that if he stayed home during his visitation with his father, that she would take him out of town to visit his cousins, I was grateful. I know she thinks we will be upset....but we weren't. It's so exhausting fighting about it and my husband just doesn't have the energy anymore. Neither do I. I never thought it would get to this point, where I would secretly look forward to the day when he's a teen and naturally won't want to come over as often. And I know it isn't my step-sons fault....it's his moms. I guess she finally won. Have any other step-moms felt this and overcome it? Am I just in a funk right now because I'm exhausted from the drama? I hope so.