Starting to potty train my almost 2 yr old... any Advice?

Traci - posted on 06/28/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I have been thinking about starting to potty train my almost 2 yr old.... but I am having trouble finding "big boy" underwear in his size.... he is wearing 18 months pants/shorts and can even sometimes fit into 12 months still... So I am wondering if anyone can give advice on how to start potty training( he is my first child) and where to buy smaller sized underwear...

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Michelle - posted on 06/30/2013

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Mary to be respectful, the OP hadn't said ANY of the signs at first. I was just making sure she wasn't making it more difficult for herself.
She has since said he is showing signs so I would fully support her toilet training.
Without all the information in the original post NONE of us know if the child is showing the signs or not. I was only giving advice on the information given.

Mary - posted on 06/30/2013

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Traci, it does sound like he has general awareness, so I personally think that there is nothing wrong with trying now.

I mean no disrespect to Michelle, but I think we have done both mothers and children a disservice by overemphasizing the "wait until they are ready" message. I'm not saying that children should be harshly pushed , but I do think some of this has gone a bit overboard. If you read any standard checklist of signs for potty training "readiness", very few 2-3 y/o's will meet all, or even most of the criteria. I can tell you that my daughter didn't when we potty trained, and yet, the whole process was fairly painless (for both of us!) and short. I also think that some parents miss the mark by waiting for these "hallmark signs", and with a lot of kids, it can actually become more difficult the older they get. Again, with my own child, if I had waited until she was closer to 3, it would have most likely been an unmitigated disaster. At two, she was still a very sweet, agreeable child, who was very motivated by positive responses from us. Closer to 3, she had become much more willful and defiant, and much more persnickety about doing things on her terms. I am sure that if we had waited to potty train, it would have been an uphill and unpleasant battle of wills.

Traci - posted on 06/29/2013

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I think he is ready to start... he knows when he has to go and he usually tells me eeww after he has went and points accordingly to what is messy.... so I feel this is more a timing issue and teaching him to tell me before he goes instead of after... he loves sitting on the potty and "trying" to go. And I never force the issue and only put him on there if he says he wants to try...

Mary - posted on 06/29/2013

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It IS hard to find underwear when they are under the 2T size - you just have to look around at various stores and try various brands.

Some kids ARE ready at an earlier age. My daughter was fully potty trained by her second bday. I didn't push this. We had put a potty seat in her bathroom at around 20 months. It was just there. We told her what it was for, and that was about it. I didn't encourage her to use it, but sometimes she would sit on it before getting in the tub. One night, at about 23 months, she actually peed in it. We were ALL very excited, and there was much celebrating and praising. She did it again the following night. The next am, I took off her diaper, and let her run around bottomless for a few hours. We spent that morning playing upstairs, and I would gently suggest she try sitting on the potty every 45 minutes or so. She used it twice during a 4 hour window, and we had no accidents. We did this everyday for a solid week, and by the end of that time, she was 100% accurate when she was bottomless.

I hadn't planned on potty training this early, so I had absolutely nothing in the way of undies or pull-ups. Halfway through the week, I was scrambling to find underwear small enough for her. She was on the smaller side, and still wearing 12-18M pants. Pull-ups (for sleeping only) weren't a problem, but I did have to try several different brands of underwear to find some that were small enough (most of them start at a 2T/3T). She's 4 1/2 now, and I honestly can't remember where I found them, or what brand.

In all honesty, the only struggle we had with her understanding that she still had to use the potty when she had bottoms on. She was great when she was uncovered, but struggled with the concept once I put pants on her. At the end of the second week, I finally just bit the bullet, and did away with naked time altogether. We had two days of more than a few accidents (never with poop - that seemed to be a big enough sensation that she got that down completely from the start). By day 3 of being clothed all the time, she had it down. Accidents were exceedingly rare for her, and by 2 1/2, I was even able to do away with pull-ups for sleeping as well.

Michelle - posted on 06/29/2013

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Let him decide when he's ready. If he's letting you know that he's wet or tells you when he has to go then he's ready.
If it's summer where you are then you can let him run around naked or just bottomless so he understands the sensation of needing to go.
If he's not showing you he's ready then don't push it, that will only make it a longer process and be very frustrating for everyone. It could also cause regression later if you push it too early.

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