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I just want to start off by saying good job to all for doing the best you can as Moms. I don't know about you but I find it very upsetting that this particular choice puts Moms on opposing sides. I chose to stay home for many reasons, I didn't think it was better, it just worked for my family. There are many pros and cons to both sides so I don't think either is better, every family is different. I've had other Moms tell me I'm lucky I get to stay home and others tell me they couldn't do it, there are times I envy Moms who get to have their own separate work life, but then I see how hard it can be too. I would love for my girls to see me make a real contribution to society, something I hope to accomplish in the future, but I wouldn't trade my time with them for anything. I have friends who have wonderful daycare providers that are very happy with their situation and others who leave their kids with family and yet feel guilty. My only annoyance comes when the occasional guilt-feeling Mother gets jealous and makes a comment like "well I have to make the sacrifice because there are certain things I want to provide for my kids". I have no idea what those things are, but then I know many Stay-at-Home Moms and not one of them has children who are denied any of the important things in life.
If you love your kids, you show them that love and teach them how to become good people, you're doing a great thing, no matter how you accomplish it. So good luck, I hope we can all be happy in all of our choices as parents.