'Stay at home mom expecting too much from husband'

Kimi - posted on 02/21/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Well I'm an staying at home mom full time with two kids and i also go to school 3 days a week. Sometimes i think that i'm depending too much on my husband. For example I'm always thinking about him and when its time for him to come home I get the house clean, dinner ready, kids dress up. Then he comes home from work and tired, takes a shower, goes to the room, reads a book and goes to sleep. Now he tells me that he is going to stay late at work because he wants to play sports with his co-workers. What should i do?

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Mommabird - posted on 02/28/2015

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Glad to hear hes wanting to help you. That's a good start. I know how you feel. Im a stay at home mom with 4 yr old, 10 yr old and 17 mth old twins. But I don't go to school! And just recently quit my part time job because I felt just as you do...overwhelmed!
Its healthy for your husband to have time with friends..away from home life...but you need the same! Let him know you also need a break from home life...that's your full time job. Maybe if you both get a planned night away....once a week or once a month.. It could help .

Kimberly - posted on 02/21/2015

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I would talk to him about it, and how you're feeling. I am sort of in the same situation with my husband too, and sometimes I may think he doesn't understand, or doesn't want to help. I have come to realize if I just ask him, then he'll normally do it. Just try and be on the same level with him when you're talking, and don't make him feel inferior. We all hate that feeling. Just tell him you need more help, and he needs to step up to the plate. I feel like since I am home, I should be the one to maintain the home more, and make sure everything is taken care of. In reality, I am constantly doing something. Whether its carpooling, taking kids to the library, and other community activities. Taking our dog for a walk, and going to school functions. I am hardly home. And you're going to school three days a week! That's impressive and probably exhausting. Good luck with everything, and I hope it works out!

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Kimi - posted on 02/27/2015

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Kimberly thank you so much for your comment. You are right, we need to let our husbands know that we need some help. I talked to him and he promised to help me more. It's has been really hard for me this days because i have two toddler who don't sleep much during the night and keep waking up minimum 3 times every night and I wake up tired. If you have an schedule or any suggestions let me know and thanks again.

Kimi

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