Stay at home mom help?

Michelle - posted on 01/15/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Ok where to start... so I'm 21 and a stay at home mom with a 22 month old. We don't go out during the day unless we have something to do which is very rare. I lost my friends after not keeping in touch with them after high school plus never had time to hang out. I don't go to school or do any activities for myself. I'm honestly with my daughter 24/7.. She even sleeps with me! I'm just getting very overwhelmed and not sure what to do and no one to talk to. My boyfriend (her father) runs his own business and works long hours. But when he gets home he's tired and doesn't feel like doing anything which is understandable. I do everything from cleaning, cooking, laundry, bathing our daughter to most of the time taking out the trash. I feel over exhausted and kind of fed up. We don't even get to sleep in the same bed or even have alone time.. It's like we're "roommates".. We haven't had sex in months which makes me feel like I'm not attractive anymore. His mom lives an hour away and wont ever take off time to come see her and my mom lives minutes away but is too busy with her life to stop by more than once a week. They don't even offer to take her or yet haven't but maybe twice? So me and her dad have only had total 5 date nights since she's been born. Crazy huh? I'm sure I'm not the only one out there but man.. I just feel depressed. I never once thought being a stay at home mom was easy but never in a million years thought it would be this rough. Does anyone else have the same problem? Any advise?

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You need to start making time for each other. Be it walking around the mall on his day off. Something where you go out together and can talk. We bring our daughter with us everywhere, even to our anniversary dinner. She sleeps in our bed too. Also start going out just for the sake of going out. We go to the mall alot since it is close and just walk and window shop. Go to a park. Start going out. It will make you feel less trapped at home. Even if it's just an hour. I am with my daughter all the time too. If you can wait until she is asleep and then use that time for some couple time instead of chores. I do everything in the morning and save the evening for relaxing. We haven't done the deed in the bedroom in eons. Since she is 22 months old maybe start working on moving her to her own bed and your man back into yours. My daughter is currently learning to sleep in her toddler bed, she is 21 months old. I have loads of family in the city and never get any help from them. My mom and brother help me more and they live an hour away and can only come in once a week as well.

Jeanae - posted on 01/15/2014

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You should try meetup.com and look for a mommy and baby group so you can get out some and your daughter can get some play time in with other babies. You can make friends that way as well and they can also give tips and their own personal experiences. I don't know if you have any friends now with kids but another option is to take turns babysitting for each other once a month so you both fget a break and a night out with your SO. HTH Dear

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