stay at home moms and work

Amanda - posted on 09/20/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hi! Well im a new mom i just had my gordito in july. I am a young mother. My husband works and tells me to not work until the baby goes to school. So im home all day with my gordo. We do live comfortably and even though we dont need the money i would like to work just to feel useful again. I dont want to leave my gordito home with a nanny or daycare center so i was thinking of a home job. Do you girls have any suggestions? Anything would be appreciated! Thank you!

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There are a lot of options for working from home if you are willing to start your own business. The catch is that it takes A LOT of time and effort to build a business from the ground up, and most new parents want to spend the bulk of their energy on their child, not their business, so the business flops. I tried working from home when my son was little--my business was already established and running smoothly, and I had the help of a full time live-in nanny, and it still didn't work. I ended up hiring full time managers so that I could stay home and focus on J. It cut my income to nearly nothing, but I was happier.

In time, I realized that I didn't need a paycheque to feel "useful". I learned how to get that fulfillment through different roles that I was more equipped to take on--mostly through volunteer work, which has made me a valuable member not only to my family, but to my whole community.

When J was very little, I started taking him with me to visit people in hospice and nursing homes. They LOVED seeing his bright young face, and it somehow made them feel more at peace with the fact that they were nearing the end of their lives. That grew into organizing holiday parties and dinners for them--so that they weren't just sitting there waiting to die. Many of them had no family to visit.
Through that, I became acquainted with our local homeless coalition. I spent time homeless during my childhood and I know the struggle homeless mothers face, so it is a cause that is very dear to my heart. I wanted to help. Because I wanted to focus on J while he was young, my early roles were small--mostly fundraising; setting up corporate sponsorships, organizing decor or catering for galas and festivals, designing invitations or marketing campaigns, etc. Whatever needed doing and could be done on my own time.
As J got older, I started a reading program for children whose mothers were homeless, that grew into a child care program where moms could leave their kids to go to job interviews or get help with their resumes and applications. Once J started school, I was able to spearhead programs to help moms secure jobs, teach them financial management, further their education, and we are currently working on a program to help them learn to cook cheap, healthy meals. In the past 3 years, we have cut our repeat guests (moms we've helped but who end up homeless again) by more than 80%.

I still don't work out side the home, and my kid is in 3rd grade now, but I still think I'm pretty useful. In fact, I feel way more fulfilled and useful now than I did when I was working!

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Amanda - posted on 09/20/2013

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Wow I certainly never thought of volunteering. Thank you Kelly that was very insightful! Helping my community not only benefits those I'm helping but it makes me a better role model for Alejandro. Thank you again Kelly!

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