Stay at home or working mom?
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Malinda - posted on 05/08/2009
I love my career, and I love being a mom. I have a great deal of respect for stay at home mom's, but it would not work for me. I feel that I have found a way to keep my career while making my son a priority (and without being part time or working from home). It's what's right for me. Of course, my husband is 100% on board, DOES work from home, and is a tremendous help around the house, so having that support is really what makes it work for *us.* That and having a care situation (nanny share) that is truly perfect for us. In case you couldn't tell, I am tremendously grateful that we have found the perfect situation for us overall. I truly wish all women could have that, whatever it looks like.
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Ashley - posted on 09/02/2011
I was a stay at home mom when my oldest was first born and i honestly hated it. I got pregnant for my 2nd when my first was 5 months. As soon as my youngest turned 2 months i went back to school. After school i went back to work full time and put both boys in a daycare center i had been to when i was a child. At first it was really hard until they got used to it but they've been there for over a year now and they LOVE it!. You can hardly get them out of their seats fast enough and once you do they run to the center. They have a nutritionist that cooks all their meals and snacks. Their meals are posted on a weekly basis as to what they are having for breakfast lunch and their snacks. I'm lucky enough to get subsidy for daycare so i don't pay anything for my oldest and pay a little over 100 a month for my youngest. Personally i wouldnt want to be a SAHM again. It's all up to you and how you feel. My sister loves it and only works around her husbands schedule so they dont have to pay for daycare and she enjoys being home with the kids. I on the other hand go crazy! lol
Mary - posted on 05/09/2009
I really appreciate the fact that everybody has been very respectful of the decision of working or staying at home. I started this thread because I heard some criticism towards working moms. Some of us work not necessarily because we need the money but because we love it and some people seem to think that is wrong. I love that everybody has been supportive of eachother, I think that is what a site like this should be about.
Keisha - posted on 05/08/2009
I respect SAHMs also, however it just wouldn't work for me. I love working as well. I think its good for me mentally and for my family. Working keeps me sane! My husband is a firefighter so he has quite a bit of time off and our youngest is with him on his days off. When he's working our youngest goes to the babysitter where he runs an plays all day. However I really cant wait until he's old enough to go where our oldest is. I actually more so feel bad that he's missing out on the advanced learning, social interaction with more than just a couple kids and communication skills from being home with dad so much. He does a lot with him, but I really cant wait until i can get him in a school type learning environment.
Kate - posted on 05/08/2009
i have been a stay at home wife since 2002. We had our first little one (a girl) in 2005 and our second in 2007 (a boy). I've never gone back to work. Sure I miss it at times but I am able to be around them and watch them take the first step, be there for the first words, etc. My daughter is finishing a full year of preschool this month and she has just as much fun at home as she does in preschool. Plus I know she can get a nap even now as she needs one. when I look at what I could miss out on by working.... I know why I like being at home.
Julie - posted on 05/08/2009
I have been a SAHM mom since my oldest was born, he is now almost 7. For us it is great and I absolutely love it. I would work if my family ever needed to, but honestly until they were at least all in school I don't think I would make enough to barely cover daycare! I am attending college online par time so that when they are all in school full time I can be a sub in the school district if I want to. For now though no plans of working, just taking care of baby, husband and house!
Stacy - posted on 05/08/2009
Hi Mary- I have done both. I currently work full time outside the home while I still have the responsibilities of a stay at home mom. When I was home full time, I really loved it, I kept very busy with Mom groups and community activites, my house was actually clean, organized and we had clean laundry. Now my kids are now 9 & 13, I work 40+ hours a week, my house is trashed, I am constantly on the go when I am home and I am stressed beyond belief. My husband really only helps when he notices I am about to loose my mind. There must be some kinda of balance? My ideal would be to work part time and be able to be home more and spend quality time with my family. Why is it, when women work outside the home, we are still expected to complete all the traditional "roles" of being the mom!
Christie - posted on 05/08/2009
I have three children-8, 4, and 3. I have stayed home with them and wouldn't be able to leave them in someone elses care. I feel guilty leaving them with a sitter or their grandparents for a few hours to go out with my husband. I run a home daycare and sell usborne children's books for extra money, which I love to do. That doesn't mean that I never have those days that i wish I was at work. But i love being a stay at home mom.
Emily - posted on 05/08/2009
I'm a working mom too and I love my job. I am glad I was able to stay home when both girls were babies but if I were to get pregnant again I probably wouldn't be able to afford it for more than 4 or 5 months so that is influencing my decision of whether or not to try again while the state (my husband is a state employee) is still cutting wages and jobs.
Kelly - posted on 05/06/2009
I am a working mom, i work usually around 40 hours a week. My son goes to a home daycare, it is my neices grandmother....so I already knew her and I knew the quality of care that he would recieve when he was in her care..he started daycare when he was 8 weeks old, he loves going, he gets excited when I drop him off, and is even more excited when I get there to pick him up......he is now almost 6 months old and what we have been doing is working.....but if I had the chance to stay at home I would love it.....but being a single mother, I have to work to support my baby boy and I as his father is not involved......
Junglekitty - posted on 05/06/2009
Right now Im trying to find a job like everyone else in michigan. I dont want to go back to work full time just yet because I have anxiety about leaving my baby for that long. I have a great family without my mom and grandma I dont think I would be able to leave Ryan at all. Right now I just want a part time postion so I can be with Ryan as much as possible and then maybe when he goes to school I can work full time.
Mary - posted on 05/06/2009
Vonda I completely understand, after my daughter was born I didn't work for a year but I am a very lucky person, my mom is able to watch my little girl while I am at work, I guess if she wasn't around I would be a stay at home mom as well.
Meesha - posted on 05/06/2009
I have three small children 6, 3, and 10mos. I worked out of the home for much of my 6 and 3 year olds lives because I had no choice, and honestly I loved it. I felt like I was supporting my little ones. Since the birth of my 3rd, my husband got a new job that allows me to stay home full time and it is wonderful! I never thought I would love it as much as I do! I've been in both situations, staying home is the best option for us, but I completely respect and understand those that don't have the luxury!
Vivian - posted on 05/06/2009
I returned back to work when my daughter was 13 months, but had her slowly transition into her daycare the month prior...we did it very gradually....the first week, I was with her for about 1-2 hours a day as we gradually increased that up to 3-4 hours by the end of the week.... I was with her that whole time as she familiarized herself with the staff, environment, etc.... then week 2, I brought her there - this time, I had left her there for an hour, and each day, I extended it by an hour....By week 4 - she 'knew' what to expect....and although she was still upset when I left her (as she still is to this day which is why her Dad does the 'drop-offs') I can tell she really enjoys herself there. The staff is amazing, the meals that the kids eat are all completely organic either low/no sodium or added sugar and she has such a variety of different foods that are catered to the center. The indoor and outdoor activities are highly rated and overall, we feel very lucky to have this daycare center so close to our home. All of these elements combined, allow me to not worry about my daughter at all when I'm at work. And when I pick her up after work, I am as excited to see her as she is to see me....
Amanda - posted on 05/06/2009
I am a stay at home mom and have been for a while I have 2 little girls and I also have been working from home for the past 7 months and I love it. It allows me to work my own schedule and make a little money on the side. I am always open to tell other moms about what I do and help them work at home to.
User - posted on 05/06/2009
I went back to work on a part time basis after my maternity leave. I truly enjoy being home with my little on and wish that I could work from home. I am looking for more opportunities where I can work from home. I plan to remain part time at least until my daughter is 2 or until I feel comfortable with her in daycare
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