stay at home sanity needed

Jenna - posted on 11/19/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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stay at home mom struggling with mental sanity and always argues with husband. My husband does help a lot just always manages to find something to do aleast one of his days off where we as a family can not go. i am struggling with staying home, and feeling like a forced babysitter on weekends. i need help with ways to help divert my brain from negative thinking to make it so my brain can accept the current situation because when i talk about the topicc with my husband we always end up arguing. One big problem is when he is home, I enjoy spending my time with my whole family, rather than going by myself somewhere. He on the other hand has been gone hunting for last 4 weekends and it is starting to take a huge toll. He did take our 2year old son with him once which was nice as I was home with our 2 month old. It just always seems to me that he does not want to spend time with his family.

help needed thank you

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Jenna - posted on 11/19/2012

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I still mentally have issues with one day a week because I grew up with parents having their own business and they were always together doing things even if it was their fun things. I am slowly having to accept that this is apperently not normal. yes i have hobby of riding horses, my husband has a horse so I enjoy going for rides with him, with our daughter being so young and the fact that I am breast feeding her, I cant even leave her with my husband the one night i took 2 hours to get my hair done. she threw fit and would not take bottle and cried the whole time. we have a low budget and cant afford child care and grandparents always have their own agenda ( a different frustration of mine) I am going to sign up for a gym membership and try to work out early am before my husband has to leave for work. we will see how long this lasts as he will have to get up at 4:30 am n take care of our daughter

D. - posted on 11/19/2012

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I think one day a week of alone time is not bad, but four weekends in a row of hunting is a little extreme. Unless hunting is a food source for your family and not just sport to him.



It sounds like he recharges when he gets some time by himself, you recharge when you can all be together. My advice is to meet somewhere in the middle. Go on dates together while leaving the children with a sitter. Have a girls night out once a month (so you can see that time away from the family isn't a bad thing).



Do you have any hobbies? Engage yourself in something that is not mothering or being a wife.

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