step chidlren

Sarah - posted on 07/29/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Basically here is my story i am a divorced mother with custody of my two children ages six and ten. My fiance i have been with for six years well last year in april he got full custody of his three children. We basically went to court and came home with them the same day. Their mother lost all of her rights ans cannot have any type.of contact with them at all until they are 18 and that will be there choice when that time comes. She doesnt even have a chance of a supervised visit. She spent time in prison and is on parole. Its very sad situation. The children look at me as a mother they call me mom. We have five between us and let me tell you its a handful. My fiances oldest basically his mother and grandparents let him do whatever, his mouth is horrible, we have not been able to break him of it, he lies about everything, he hits his sister and brother, his mom taught him how to steal at some point ahe used him as the carrier of the stuff she stole so he thinks stealing is okay. He doesnt want to do anything hes very disrespectful and he thinks everything is a joke. Its causing issues between me and his father whom i love very much but i dont know how much longer i can handle it. The icing on cake for me was when he called my daughter a B. He damages stuff around the house also for no reason. Hes a bad influence on the four kids. We have done everything possible taking stuff, you name it, we try and reward him for positive behavior and his behavior is just getting worse and worse. The other two have adjusted better. He fails school also, his mother never pushed him to excel in school even writing so he writes like a third grader. I love him dont get me wrong but im at my breaking point. His kids do tend to walk all over me alot. I know my children arent perfect but i am at my breaking point his father and i argue alot now daily and its causing major issues. I want to pull my hair out!

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/29/2014

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Keep your head up, Sarah! Once the oldest understands that his life is stable now, he'll slowly improve

Sarah - posted on 07/29/2014

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They have been thru extensive counseling already and were released and his two youngest have normal age hiccups but hes still struggling so yes i agree counseling!

Sarah - posted on 07/29/2014

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Thank you, yes their dad is working on getting his oldest in counseling. His two younger children seems like their hiccups are just an age thing, they are happy they are with dad and feel protected, its mainly the oldest and i am going to look into classes or an.acitivity to help us blend more as a family because family is important to me.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/29/2014

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These kids, all of them, need to be in counseling. They came from a horrible situation, and the adjustment is not going to be instant for anyone.

Plus, the family needs to be in groups for blending. You all need to learn to live with each other, and there are people out there who help with this.

Good luck!

Dove - posted on 07/29/2014

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These children should be in counseling asap! A good counselor will work w/ the whole family addressing any issues and empowering you and your fiance to set appropriate boundaries w/ unbending consequences. Good luck!

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