Step child and marriage

Martha - posted on 05/15/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I've been married for two years. I kept running out on my marriage always came back allergen fighting I couldn't deal with. Anyways I have a step daughter she turns 15 soon. My husband let's her do what she wants gives her whatever she wants never makes her do anything not even clean her room or cat litter which she promised to take care of if she got. I brought cough meds out the other night because she was coughing he wouldn't even make her take it. He's like I can't make her take it along with anything else he sees her more a friend than a child we argue one min she's a child next she a teenager then she's adult he downgrades me in front of along with are toddlers let's her talk to me anyway she feels fit and he gets mad because I say we'll she doesnt need food or drink in her room if she ain't going to clean it our other daughter thinks she can too and she's four he punishes the four year old which is his step daughter if she don't clean hers but not his own and this all orders with raising the little ones my step daughter has lived with us going on 4years mother has been apart of her life other than holidays doesn't pay for anything not even the 80 miles a day to school I drive my step daughter because of divorce degree mother just gave her to father refused to give up Rights til recently so what do I do he treats me like a child and her like his best friend she has no responsibility or consequences I've tried speaking to him about it but starts a big fight and he says in not getting in between y'all too and I am 27 she is 14

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Martha - posted on 05/16/2016

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I apologize for the rambling dint mean to make it hard to understand. My mind was going a mile a minute. You did get the drift of what I'm saying. I would like counseling but he wouldn't go. I believe it would help us. I also beloved we are worth trying to save but I am getting to my breaking point with this. It does start a big fight and he seems to thing I'm picking on her she 14 doesn't have to anything and does whatever she wants he thinks shes not out there having sex drinking or doing drugs that shes fine he says in jealous I don't know in just complaining I guess. Anyways thank you for listening and your advice

Martha - posted on 05/16/2016

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I believe that would work but he isn't willing to. Thank you for listening and responding

Amaze - posted on 05/16/2016

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It’s great that you are able to share the struggles you have been facing at home. Had you and your husband considered a counseling together? I just wonder if that would give you both an opportunity to get everything out on the table. Praying for you!

Sarah - posted on 05/15/2016

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I am having a hard time understanding but this is what i think you are saying; you have 4 year old, your husband has a 14 year old. Your husband does not discipline his own child and puts her before you. He thinks its ok to discipline your child even though he is not her bio-parent.
Well, either leave and don't go back or seek some counseling for the two of you to figure this mess out.

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