Janell - posted on 12/10/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
I have been in a realationship for little over a year with a man who has two children a 12 yr old who is very lazy. He will ask her to do something and she will put it off until he forgets, most times he will forget and the mess she has made will be there for days. When he doesn't forget he has to yell at her to get her to do her chores. She will walk outside barefoot and go back in the house with dirty feet which will make the carpets not to mention furniture dirty. When she has something to eat or drink she will leave her wrapper or bottles laying around the house or she will throw it on the floor behind furniture etc. Very disgusting. I should let you know I am a very clean person and I can't stand a mess. When I mention that it's disgusting how his daughter throws trash on the living room floor or doesn't pick up after herself he gets defensive. She will literally have a trail of her things from the time she comes in the house after school that will just stay there until he asks her to pick it up. In the past when I complained he would say pick it up then. He has finally gotten better about not expecting me to pick up after her. Then there's his 18 yr old who for 10 years of her life from 8-18 he has been only able to see when her mother would allow her to. Now she will call and expect him to drop what he's doing to pick her up to spend a a few hours with him if that or she will keep calling until he does pick her up. I can't say anything to him about it because he says I don't understand. I love him very much but can't stand the situation. What do I do?